my husband is currently overseas and he is sending me money in an allotment but here's the thing. he is only sending me housing allowance, not family seperation. aren't i entitled to that??
2006-11-26 15:21:40 · 14 answers · asked by xo_mary.mary_ox 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
You are only "entitled", as you call it to the BAH. You have no rights to anything else. Someone mentioned VHA. We don't get VHA any more. We now get BAH, which is a combination of BAQ and VHA and it based on the location that you live.
You've obviously chosen not to move with him or he's on an unaccompanied tour to a location like Korea. I'm not sure what kind of marriage you have. I take care of all the bills and have control of the checkbook. Evidently, he takes care of the bills and sends you the BAH to live on. You'll have to survive on that or get a job. He's giving you exactly what you're "entitled" to.
2006-11-26 16:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a military spouse, you are entitled to both the BAQ and VHA payments as authorized by the military. And those are really the only things you are "entitled" to.
I ask the same question somebody else did: what kind of a marriage do you have?
I served for 10 years, and was deployed for almost 2 years of my marriage. Whenever I was deployed, I sent all of my money to my wife, keeping only around $100 a month (and this was in 1988-1990, when pay was roughly 40% lower then it is now). This gave me just enough money to get a few books, go to the club occasionally, and see a movie a few times a month.
"Family Seperation" is actually intended to help the servicemember pay for things they would normally not have to worry about if they were living at home (eating, travel expenses, laundry, etc). Although most guys I knew basically lived off of the "sep pay", and sent everything else (including base pay) home to their spouses.
Sounds to me that either your marriage is not much of a marriage, or your husband does not trust your ability to handle finances. But to answer the question, you are not "entitled" to anything else.
That is, unless you get a divorce, and an alimony payment is ordered. Then he must pay that amount, reguardless of how much his various payments are.
2006-11-26 15:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by dothan_mike 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By regulation, he is only required to send the BAH not the separation or any other entitlements. The governing regulation for this is AR 608-99 which I have linked below (this is the USAPA site - the reg is listed and available in pdf format). However, he is also required to pay all of his legal obligations under AR 600-15, so if you are designated by a power of attorney to do this, then he must send you funds to complete that duty. If he has someone else designated or is managing his own affairs, then he does not have to send extra funds.
P.S. - If he is sending you the exact BAH amount, then I would make the assumption that he has read or been told of the regulation and doing this based upon that fact.
2006-11-26 15:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by sofgrant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a military spouse. my husband is currently over seas in Iraq . our sponsors/ husbands do get separation pay only after 30 days of leaving. what kind of marriage set up do you all have? do you have different banks? you asked if you were entitled to his separation pay. as a military spouse answering your question i think you seem to be a bit more on the greedy side.
i have been married to my husband for 10 years. NEVER would i feel i was entitled to his separation pay. does he not need soap to wash his body? shampoo to wash his hair? razors to shave? if he smokes , well they are not free there. i am sure you get the point!
have a great day
2006-11-26 17:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by virginia l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting that you used the word "entitled" in a question regarding your marriage.
However, I would say no. You are using the housing, as he's overseas, so you need the housing allowance. The military gives him a family separation pay due to the 'annoyance' of being separated. He's the employee, so he gets the pay. Up to him to share it. Sounds like you have separate finances which is odd in itself.
2006-11-26 15:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Aegis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What exactly do you mean? If he is overseas, then he should be receiving family seperations yes. Does he have to send it home to you? No. It sounds like you're a greedy wife.
2006-11-27 04:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you separated or is he just sending you a certain amount of money? If you are not with him by choice, then no he wont get separation pay, that is if you are separated by the military like a deployment or some schools, and it is if you are separated longer than 30 days.
2006-11-27 00:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by mpwife_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a military brat..and that i'm divorced from a marine..and now i'm relationship a military corpsman (who's at present deployed) :(....thank you for sharing this wisdom! God Bless the armed forces and their families!!!
2016-10-13 04:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by lipton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He risks his life, and does the work - and you want him to send you the money? What the he!! kind of a job is that for you? Here's a link for you to get a better job:
Military Spouse JobSearch is designed to enhance the employment opportunities for spouses of US Military members with employers committed to hiring military spouses and to connect employers with a talented, global, diverse workforce.
2006-11-26 15:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by bluefrog 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, you should take all the money. That's what me and my wife are doing. It prevents high overseas bar tabs and the inevitable foreign 14 year old hookers after a long night of drinking.
2006-11-26 16:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by John B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋