my baby's dad was abused when he was little. could he do that to my daughter?
2006-11-26 15:10:14 · 24 answers · asked by LeAnn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
not neccessarly but i would keep an eye on her
2006-11-26 15:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by pg#3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know him better than anyone here but ,there are people who were abused and would never, ever even think of abusing a child. There are people who were not abused and become monsters. Still, the "experts" do say that people with UNRESOLVED child abuse issues my repeat the cycle faster than those who were never abused or who had therapy/professional help. Is he open to family/couples or individual counseling regarding the abuse he suffered? If he is I think the chances will go down significantly that he would repeat the cycle. Also, did you know this before you got pregnant by him? If so that may have been something you good to look into or talked with him about BEFORE making a baby with him. Now he has perm parental rights unless he does abuse her then it's to late.
2006-11-27 00:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Cocoa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi this is quiet a hard question. I was also abused as a child. i have two beautiful children and I would NEVER do that to them because I know that it is WRONG. Although you do need to talk to your husband about this if you are worried people that have been abused may carry on the cycle although some do not. It takes one person to stop the cycle of abuse. You will most likley affend your husband when bringing up this topic but I believe that it is something you need to risk to protect your child. Good luck I hope all is well.
2006-11-26 23:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes he could, but so could anybody. Just because you are abused when you are younger does not mean that you are going to be abusive yourself as an adult. I was abused a lot as a child in all catergories. I have two beautiful daughters and I would never hurt them. In fact I am overly protective of them to this day because of what happened to me as a child. So do not assume he is going to hurt them unless he is exhibiting behaviors that might concern you.
2006-11-27 01:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by jdyzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG im appalled at some of those answers.... just becaus babydaddy was abused as a child does not mean he will abuse your child.... should you worry, sure but you should worry about ppl not abused too.... I've had two children and I was abused as a child... i would never dream of putting a child through that... and chances are good that your babys dad feels the same.... It saddens me to see so many ppl think so negatively on this kind of question.... being abused is traumatic, and he was honest about the abuse that he endured... which is a major thing especially for a man... we are not all as sick as the ppl that abused us.... remember that!
2006-11-26 23:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He could do that, or he could make it his mission in life to make sure nobody ever does that to his children. It could go either way. You don't say how old your daughter is, or how involved the father has been in the child's life. If you're that worried about it, you need to keep an eye on him. Make sure he's not in a room alone with her behind a closed door. Be sure you are the one who always gives your daughter a bath. If she's still in diapers, change the diapers yourself. If she's potty training and you let her go without a diaper, at least make sure she has on a long dress so she's not flashing her privates around the house.
2006-11-26 23:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by nosleepthree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he abusive to you? Does he have anger problems that stem from his being abused? Did he receive counseling for the abuse? If he is not abusive to you most likely he will not be abusive to your daughter. Not all kids that are abused grow up to be abusers themselves. Some are actually totally against spanking their own children as a form of discipline.
2006-11-26 23:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a proven fact that abuse can run in a family. but that does not necessarily mean that he can not over come it and be a great dad. just keep an eye and ear out for warning signs, and if those signs show up, get that baby away from him ASAP.
2006-11-26 23:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by kute_regina_gal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex was abused when he was young. He never abused our kids but he was an awful father. We are divorced now but he still sucks as a dad. My advice to you is, watch everything REALLY close. Even if you have to get cameras set up. THAT IS YOUR RIGHT!! you are that baby's mom. Good luck honey
2006-11-26 23:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by dee4rad 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No , me and my husband was both abused as kids and we have happy healthy kids of our own .So I don't think so . But it may be a good idea to see a counslor thou if you have doubt it . Just because you was abused doesnot realy mean that the one that was abused will do that to their kids .We love our children so very much and they know that .
2006-11-26 23:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by purpal2002002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on him it doesnt mean that he was abused is he wants to abuse your daughter too i am angered at some of the first answers! and Leann if you feel safe ,secure and trusting then he could not hurt her if he doesnt wanna hurt you or her
2006-11-27 00:39:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋