I had a baby 2 months ago. me and the baby's dad aren't together becuz he caused a bunch of problems with my family and he lied to me about every lil thing...all the times before when i was pregnant he called and checked on me and his daughter and now that me and her have been home he hasn't came by called came to see her helped me take care of her or anything....and when she was born she hadn't been born even a hour and he called asking how he could get a DNA test, he has a new g/f now and she is jealous over the baby and she thinks that i want him back which i don't...so should i let him see my daughter or what?
2006-11-26 15:03:50 · 20 answers · asked by LeAnn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Find your daughter a good daddy! Quit fooling around with that looooser! There are plenty of great men in this world that will step up and help you raise your daughter as their own. Go find one of them and stop worrying about the other guy! good luck!
2006-11-26 15:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by Tera 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very young. So you have to be the grown up. If he wants to be part of the babys life, then let him, as long as he is no danger to her.
And you have to think about the future, if your child one day finds out its dad wanted to be part of her life and you prevented it - could ruin your relationship with your daughter.
I would call his new girlfriend over for coffee and explain that you dont want him back for no amount of money. But that his daughter will be a part of his life and that she should realize that her relationship with him will be better if she accepts the fact that he has a child.
You must also remember your daughter will get older and you will be glad to have a weekend to yourself.
So look to the future and make nice for yourself and your daughter.
Good luck
2006-11-27 12:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by eidunotno 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what problems he had. If he wants to see your daughter and you trust him with her once in a while go for it. Your daughter might really want to see him or maybe won't get along. As she gets older let her decide. Even if he was a lunatic don't talk about him too much. That will only encourage your daughter to do the same. Good luck and keep in mind it is as hard for your daughter as it is for you.
2006-11-29 20:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by tictac_lvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you to may not be together but if he is the father i strongly believe they should have a relationship. a biological father can never be replaced in a girls life by a step daddy. i do think you should let them see each other. let him and his g/f come over so they can see her. i say let his g/f come over because she will then feel more comfortable with the situation and won't be all nuts if he decides to see his girl without her. let him see her in your supervision until you feel comfortable with her being away with you and you know he's a good daddy. which it sounds like he may be because he was always checking up during the pregnancy. if wants to be truely responsible for his daughter, after the dna test comes back as his then ask him about child support. if he wants to be a responsible father he will not fight you about it.
2006-11-26 23:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by xo_mary.mary_ox 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BABY, You let him get a DNA test and then you hit him with child support. Let me tell you from experience...DO NOT be ugly to him. You be as nice as you can...even if you have to bite your tongue. You can even go as far as inviting him and HIS GIRLFRIEND over to see the baby. It will kill them girl...I did it! and when they leave you feel sooooooo good. After the DNA test and he starts paying support then yes, let the baby go with him and let him be a dad. It will also help you in the future. TRUST ME!! My son is 7 and I did the same thing. Made them so mad but I looked like a saint! Good luck hon!
2006-11-26 23:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by dee4rad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him see his daughter because it is his but that does not mean you have to get back together with him find someone who treats you with respect and does not mind you having a child!! good luck it is mostly up to you because you are the mother and a mother always makes the right decision for her child!!
2006-11-26 23:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by linda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the DNA test. Most states require the bio parent to support the child. IF you do not want him involved whatsoever, don't do the test, let him go and move on. You may be better off.
2006-11-26 23:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by Sheila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant just go find your daughter a new "daddy". This is her father and he has every right to see her. I know you dont like him but its not about that, its about her right to see her dad and his to see her. Even if he is as bad as he sounds he still has rights. Suggest he come by one day and visit while you are present and then see how that goes and work from there.
2006-11-26 23:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lori R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say yes. Even though, he is a loser-that isn't the baby's fault. You two having a baby together is your mistake, not hers. You will be so surprised at how much having a father around matters to children.Then if he see her, maybe he will have a change of heart and boss up to his responsibility.
2006-11-26 23:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SPARE YOURSELF...the burden of dealinf with a loser like that, many men dont mind being a "father figure" and Im sure you could find one...a good man would take the place of a bad bio dad. If his new gf is jealous of your kid, you dont want that drama in your life or him...just move on, hell lie and say it isnt his!
2006-11-26 23:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋