ok so theres this girl i like and i just got to the point where we're talking on the phone alot... but it's always kinda quiet, and i'm really shy and can't think of stuff to talk about on the spot. HELP!!!
2006-11-26 15:03:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ya but how do i do that without it sounding trivial. i don't wanna start listing a bunch of random questions about her
2006-11-26 15:15:43 · update #1
You can ask her when her birthday is?
What's her favorite color?
What's her favorite flower?
ect...
Just ask her things that you may need to know later on... ???
Hope this helps?
2006-11-26 15:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm..."always kinda quiet." It takes two for it to be kinda quiet. Is it possible she feels the same way you do ( likes you, is kinda shy) and can't think of stuff to say? How about trying to find that out. That should fill the silences. Maybe be honest with her, tell her your shy and ask her if she ever feels that way, then go from there
If you ask her things you are genuinely interested in I think she will feel it. Remember the "Who, what, when, where and how" 's.
2006-11-26 15:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by fbbfh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should be fairly simple this time of year, luckily enough. Christmas is a wonderful topic, ask about each others traditions, families, best and worst, dreams, wishes, that kind of thing. You will likely see conversation patterns veer to another, probably a bit off topic, then it will evolve more from there, keeping the conversation flowing. If your shy, be couragous enough to at least ask the questions and let her do the talking at first, and when it comes your turn to open, you've already mustered up enough courage to continue! Good Luck! :)
2006-11-26 15:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take the next step. Ask her out for coffee. Bring her some flowers--it's always a nice touch! Be honest. Don't put on a show, trying to impress her. Tell her that you are a shy person. She will appreciate that, and respect you for it. Good luck.
2006-11-26 15:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well this might sound silly or excessive but it will work-make a list of things to talk about, questions to ask, movies you have seen recently, stuff like that. That way when it gets quiet you can just refer to the list.
2006-11-26 15:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try talking about current events such as politics or something that happened in school today or even the weather. If that doesn't work or you don't know much about that, try talking about (dun dun dun) your opinions and FEELINGS on certain things. Talk about what interests you, and if she seems interested, keep talking. If she seems disinterested, ask her what interests her and lend her an honest ear. Chances are she'll do most of the talking if you ask her to talk about what makes her happy.
2006-11-26 15:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by Rika Ishikawa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her out. Don't be too conscious of what to say or what she will think, because that will hold you back a lot. When the both of you go out together, you get more exposed to the surrounding and you'll have more topics to talk about. Good luck!
2006-11-26 15:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What was your favorite vacation. She can talk about hers, you can talk about yours. If it is on the spot just say "Hey, my family is thinking of a Yellowstone vacation next year, have you ever been there?"
Vacation talk can turn into so many things, discussing what amusement park rides you like, have you ever ridden a jet ski, seen the Grand Canyon, etc.
Vacation talk is kind of neutral territory too. You won't have to worry about offending her in any way.
2006-11-26 15:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get to know her, you can never go wrong, what is her favorite color, food, city? How many siblings does she have, how did she grow up and where? What kind of guys does she like, what things can guys do that will make her melt? Umm anything, just get to know her, the more questions you ask, the more she'll see you are genuinly interested her and not just after her for sex.
2006-11-26 15:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by meggy_3990 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being shy is all in the head...although girl think its cute it get annoing quick.
Ask about her life
believe me, girls only wanna talk about themselves if shes polite she will ask about your life, but keep it short, she doesnt really care.
Maybe ask her what her favorite things are...flowers ect...
This is helpfull if you plan to further the relationship.
Maybe ask her about what kind of movie she likes.
Crap like that.
It will keep her talking about herself, which she will love, and it will give you tonnes of info that you can use to Wow her with. like suprizing her with her favorite flowers, or taking her to a movie she might actually like instead of Fast and the Furious TD
LOL
Good luck buddy
2006-11-26 15:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are always awkward silences when your first getting to know someone. Talk about something you've done during the day, or your hobbies. With time you'll get comfortable with her and the conversation will flow naturally.
2006-11-26 15:05:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋