Confussed about my religion?

Question

My dad is non-religious - does not believe in God, never will, and does not want me believing either. My mother is very religious and she wants me to be as well. I am very confussed,and do not know what to believe in. It is putting me in an akward position and a lot of stress on me. If anyone has any advice on what I should do that would be great. thanks :)

Answer 1

Well since your father does not believe then you know his stance
However, since your mother does, It would not hurt you one bit to look into the Bible and decide for yourself what you choose to believe

Answer 2

I hear your delimma! I lived it too for a very long time. My situation was a little different though. My parents were swingers, and then my mother decided to get religion, again. She was raised in a Baptist household. My dad was an alcoholic. He got religion only in the last years of his life. I grew up not really going to church, hit and miss. Mostly miss. They would get pissed if I didn't go to church when I was in High School. (It was pretty well forced at that time) I have had the luxury of having gone to just about every church you can imagine..and studied world religions. What I have learned from all of this is that most faiths have the same basic principals which is summed up by treating each other the way we want to be treated, and take care of each other. You have to decide what is right for you. As long as you live with one or the other parent, you will not be able to do this. Study on your own. Ask questions and question everything. Then trust your own heart and your own instincts. You will not go wrong if you seek after what you want to know. Please don't take any one person's word as gospel, pray and ask for guidance. People are only human and do not know all the answers, they are well meaning, but wrong much of the time. I wish you the best of luck in your search. Peace is where the answers are. Nana

Answer 3

Well depending, on what do you rally believe, and the best thing you could do is some research so that you can believe what is truth nott because either your mother or your father believe, you really need to find out for yourself what is right to believe.Yes, research is the way to go most definately. I suggest that to find the real truth, youcan pray to God for Iwisdom in finding his truth, if you do that in sencerity and are humble, he will hear you, that is what I did when I wasn't sure if God was real or not, Idid trulybelieve, though, that, if ,there is a God he would answer and he did, if you believe that then he will answer you also, it stands to reason that if God exists and wants you to believe which he does and if you respectfully ask him for guidance in this matter he will give the answer to you, but you must take note so that you can recognise his answer, which may not be the way you expect it to be! wishing God's blessing on you for trying to find out about him!

Answer 4

Spirituality is a personal thing. So what you believe spiritually is up to you. Also I would like to point out that Christianity is not a religion, but a relationship with God. Personally, believing that Jesus is God and has control over my life has made my life so blessed. Some parts of my life have been absolutely brutal, but I make it through every time, because of God. God gives us hope and guidance. Take a personal look at Christianity. Read some of the Bible, especially Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John, and perhaps visit a local church (not Church of Latter-Day Saints if you want to pursue Christianity... they are Mormoms, they call themselves Christians, but are actually not according to the Bible.)

Answer 5

You are your own person. The only other Being that has greater authority over you, assuming you are of age is God--if you choose to believe that, I do.

Others such as parents, mates etc. come after you in 3rd. 4 th etc. When we start letting people control our decisions they might as well control all our life. We have a conscience, that can come to our rescue if we train it with good endeavors.

I am not applying this to anyone you know, but Hitler called the conscience a "chimera" a many headed monster--and you saw what he one of the greatest monsters ever to exhist did. He indeed wanted to snuff out any type of conscience that got in his way.

No matter what experience one has gone through he has no right to dictate to anyone what they're beliefs should be or not be. The Bible states "..... not to think more of ourselves than is necessary" The second greatest commandment from Christ was to "love your neighbor as yourself"--so one has to have a healthy regard for oneself in order to accomplish that.

Eleanor Roosevelt stated in part "the only one who can make you feel inferior is yourself"--If you are having a tough time making a decision, take your time , way matters out & maybe pray about the matter.

THA

Answer 6

If your mom is very religious, lives her life according to the way the Bible says a chrisian should, then watch your mom's actions and the solutions and watch your dad's actions and the solutions. Other wise you are your own person, Me as a christian would says choose God, get saved and live a christian life, we all have our seperate day before the Lord and you have to make that decision for yourself, oneday you will be on your own,l living, paying your own dues so you make that decision for yourself and if you are not accepted by your dad because of your choice to do right, then pray for him that he gets understanding, otherwise you have a father in the Lord also.
Hope you make a wise decision. Your father will not be there with you on judgement day.

Answer 7

I am going to answer as if you are not a troll. 1. Catholics are Christian. Those who claim exclusive right to the title are evangelical, fundamentalist Christians. (I am not a Catholic) 2. Evolution is in direct conflict to what God has revealed. However, He believes in progression, and expects us to progress. Some who misunderstand the importance of progression will be vulnerable to believing evolution, because it does have enough truth to make the false conclusions seem probable. 3. There are ghosts. All ghosts are human, though not mortal. Some are people who lived here on the earth, and for individual reasons, refuse to move on to the Spirit World, or paradise, by another name. They are often confused, suffering people who did not change when they died. We are who we are, no matter whether in our bodies or out. Some are people who loved evil in this life, and in the next, have aligned themselves with Satan, and now work with him to bring about the misery of us mortals. Dying does not change who someone is. Some are people who will never inhabit a body here, but chose to align themselves with Satan before this earth was created. Anyone who believes in ghosts is correct. But don't be fooled into thinking that they are something other than humans. About the afterlife: My mother and two of my friends died and spoke with God. There is a God, there is an afterlife, though it is almost nothing like the "heaven" and "hell" that so many religions preach. What divides us is essentially, what do we want? Not what we ought to want, but really want. Do we want to help others? Are we looking out for ourselves? Do we enjoy inflicting pain on others? What we want determines what we become, and what we are determines where we will go. Ghosts are people who are not normal. God is a being whose life and purposes are completely altruistic, that is, everything that He does is for the benefit of others. This brings Him and all His creations great joy. But He does not force anyone to do anything. However, He obeys the Laws of the Universe. He cannot deny justice, but hopes that we will make the choices that make mercy possible.

Answer 8

Sorry to hear that you are in such a sticky position. Number one, I would make it very clear that you love you mom and your dad. Tell them that you respect their beliefs. However you need to make it clear to them that they don't live your life. And you need to be given the opportunity to soul search and find what works for you. Everyone has different life experiences, thoughts, feelings, that influences how they choose to believe in a higher power. If your torn between the two, might I suggest just to tell them that your a spiritual person. A spiritual person doesn't affiliate themselves with any organized religion. It would be the closest thing to a common ground between the two.

Answer 9

Look into your heart and see what it tells you. Why does your Dad believe what he believes? Why does your mother believe what she believes? You need to decide for yourself and not let others decide for you. Do not worry if one gets mad, it is your life. No one can tell you what to do. As a Christian, I can not tell you, nor can anyone else, what to chose, it must come from your heart and mouth. I can tell you my thoughts though.

To me, it is an eternal decision, that if your Dad were to ask what if I am wrong, I would have lost nothing but would have been a good person. If your Mother were to ask me the same and I thought as your dad did, I would stand to be judged for eternity in one place or another, Heaven or Hell.

Answer 10

A few things to ask yourself:

1.) Are your parents motivated by their desire for your well-being, or by their desire to be right and/or get a victory over each other?

2.) What are your father's philisophical (not personal) motivations for wanting you to not believe in God? What incentives and drawbacks are there to his point of view?

3.) What are your mother's theological (not personal) motivations for wanting you to accept God? What incentives and drawbacks are there to her point of view?

4.) Will your choice be borne out of deep conviction, or will you just be "picking a side" for the sake of resolving conflict?

5.) Are you harboring any resentment against either parent that might influence your decision (i.e. to "hurt" the other parent)?

6.) Finally, which is most important to you: your parents, yourself, or God?

Answer 11

Hey friend, it really depends on you. If you think that with all the things that are around you, what do they tell you? Does a newborn baby cry, a miralce to you or it is just another thing? Does falling in love with a person an ordinary thing or it is something that you feel that you are the happiest person in the world? Continue to discover yourself..Good luck