She lived across the street she was 17 and died in a car accident her van went across two lines and hit a telephone pole. I never told her how I felt and it hurts alot what should i do?
2006-11-26 14:49:43 · 10 answers · asked by animescifigamer359 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Grief is something that is usually dealt with in stages and it's not stages YOU can choose. It's stages that your at, at a specific time. Work through it and allow yourself to feel sad. You can cry about your friend it's ok to do that whether you are a guy or a girl. You can write to her and go to the cemetary and read it to her or dig a small hole and place your letter beside her. Pray to the Lord, for He is the reliever of ALL pain and will comfort you and give you rest. Sounds like she was a pretty neat girl who loved life. Live yours to the fullest and never, skip a moment. Sounds like she would want that. Just because someone is gone from this earth, does not mean that they don't hear you from heaven. So go for a walk and talk to her and God. Eventually, you will think of her with a smile and a warm feeling. She may be that special angel on your shoulder when your down or about to do something you shouldn't. Talk to God, He can help you deal with everything!
2006-11-26 15:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by foxfire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. You need to take care of yourself, right now. If you have a friend you can talk to, it would be helpful to you to talk about how you feel. Not to get 'quick fix-it' answers necessarily, but to at least get some of the pain out of your soul.
Go to where she rests now. Tell her how you feel. Express all those feelings you didn't get to. If she was like most people who care for other people, she would want you to get on with life. Remember the goodness in her and apply it to your life. That is one way she can continue on, through you.
If you knew anyone in her family very well, see if you can spend time together taking about the best things that were her. I am sure her family is feeling the same as you are. Talking together about it will give you all a sense of closure.
I wish you all the best in whatever you do. You seem a strong person, that is why you are asking for help. Please remember --
Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, Today is a GIFT - that is why it is called the PRESENT.
2006-11-26 15:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by sandilo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry for your loss. Talking about it can help you get your feelings out a bit. Do you have family or friends that you can talk to about this? I hope so. If not, maybe you can talk to a school guidance counselor. This may sound silly, but maybe it would help to write a letter about how you felt about her. It would again help to get the feelings out and some of the frustration of never having had the chance to tell her. Just keep this letter for yourself if you write it. Maybe there is some way of honoring her memory. If she liked animals, maybe you could donate to an animal shelter. If she liked nature, maybe you could plant a tree. Something like that. Again, I'm so sorry.
2006-11-26 15:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you and to her family.
Losses are hard and especially during the holidays.
It is a shame that you never had a chance to express your feelings for her.
Who knows, she may have noticed you too.
If it helps you to feel any better, perhaps you could visit the area where she has been laid to rest.....take her some special flowers and while there quietly express how you felt about her.
Granted she will never hear with the physical ear but this could be a release of healing for you.
We should all learn to not take for granted the moments we have with one another.......share that laugh, express that love, commit to that friend or begin that love relationship - but most of all love one another!
Best wishes Hon!
2006-11-26 14:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by Marsha 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter. Tell her all the things you felt, let out your emotion. She will never get it, but it might help you deal with your feelings. If you want, take it and some flowers or a plant to her grave.
I'm so sorry for your loss, stay strong.
2006-11-26 15:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry that you lost your friend. Have you thought about writing to her parents? You can let them know how sorry you are about their loss. Also, with the holidays approaching it will be very, very hard for them -- you could stop by one day and offer to help them in any way -- mow their lawn, wash their car, get groceries for them -- sometimes helping someone else is a good way to assuage grief. Pray for your friend and her parents. God bless.
2006-11-26 15:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to a therapist. It really does help!!
2006-11-26 14:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, don't kill yourself over it, as you can see life is short!
2006-11-26 14:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by rahimj_27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it God will help ya!! =]
2006-11-26 14:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
there is nothin u can do.
2006-11-26 14:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋