we've gone out for a year but everyone just thinks we're so young that we shouldn't be doing it. we are always safe and never would not be. she is also so afraid someone will find out. but now when she is saying no i'm finding myself attracted to other girls and thats not what i want to happen. I really am confused. should we have just stuck to petting or tried oral sex?
2006-11-26 14:40:29 · 15 answers · asked by jjill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you guys are a little young to have sex, if u want to do something then try oral
2006-11-26 14:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We all have 'attractions' to other people, its what you do or dont do about it that matters. Should you have just stuck to petting or tried oral sex....sure. But whats done is done. She's lost her virginity to you, and now wants a little self-respect back. Dont be the jerk that took that part of her away and couldnt love her unconditionally (I was her once, and I was 14 too). Im not saying dont have sex again with her or anyone else until your 18. Thats a decision you have to make for yourself. But maybe step back from the sexual part of your relationship and just hold her hand. Remember why you asked her out to begin with (you liked her before without the sex didnt you?) So it probably wont be forever for the two of you. But realize that if you are old enough to have sex, then you need to be mature enough to respect her, respect her wishes and her body, and stand by her until she is comfortable with the risks and responsibilities that come with being the female in the sex act.
2006-11-26 15:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by NowWhat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two are way too young to be having sex. i'm 19, and my boyfriend's 18. i've told him i won't do sex until late in my 3rd year in college. we're in a long distance relationship, i guess that's good, because when we're together. it really heats up. but anyway, yeah try oral, or petting. petting would be better. besides, even though ya'll are being totally safe, what happens if she accidentally gets pregnant? and if she's so afraid someone will find out, then i definitely think ya'll shouldn't be having sex.
2006-11-26 14:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by K.D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't want to hear this but, you're only 15! You may feel that you love this girl, but by your own words you have said that you are finding yourself attracted to other girls. There is nothing wrong with that. You have lots of years ahead of you to get serious with a girl. As far as having sex, the best advice I could give would be don't! But, I have to admit that when I was 17, I was having sex with my 15 year old girlfriend. So, there you are.
2006-11-26 14:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u guys are young to b having sex. the appropriate age i think would be 18.even "protected sex" cant help you somtimes.i have 2 friends who got pregnant at a young age ,with protected sex and birth control. its a matter of choosing.there are concequences to everything.i was pregnant 2 months ago.yea, kids may think getting pregnant is cute 'n all, but its not worth it.most kids just want attention and brag about having sex .people begin to treat you differently afterwards.just dont have sex, then you wont have to worrie about anything.
2006-11-26 14:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know Im late on answering the question. But this is entirely up to the two of you. Its what you feel is right, and what you two ultimately want to do. No one can tell you when you're ready for something like that. Its extremely personal. I've been in that state, and thank go dmy friends left that decision up to me, because I'm not them, and no one is you. Good luck figuring stuff out hun =]
2006-11-29 12:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by Run Kalula Run 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, do u love this girl? And if so why are you attracted to other girls? Just because she said no? Ah C'mon! You know there are plenty of sex for you both as you're so young. So, right now let us all concentrate on other parts...studies?
2006-11-26 14:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by Sportivo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Kay...if she is worried that someone will catch you and ur attracted to other girls when she syas no...then I don't think you are mature enough for sex...I hate to break it to ya..but what would happen if ur 'protection' didn't work..and she got pregnant. Your 15! Could you actually take care of a baby. Nope. My advice is just stick to kissing for now. Your young and you will have plenty of time for sex when your older.
<3 Kel
2006-11-26 16:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by *Sweet_Sixteen* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm only 2 years older than you are, but if you want some advice, i'd say listen to what you two want. no one can make decisions for you, alright? and anyways, relationships are not equivalent to sex, and if it's only sex that you're both after, i don't think that's a good realtionship at all. sex shouldn't be the only thing that keeps you together...
2006-11-26 14:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by get.real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-ok eww
-don't do anything
-she is right to say no
-above the influence
-you are wrong because relationships should not be based on physical(or sexual) features
-you should have stuck to kissing and holding hands
-ABSTINENCE
-don't you have morals
-stop having sex because you lost your virginity and so did she and it was probably more important to her and now she will regret it for the rest of her life
-way to go( that was sarcasm if you couldn't tell)
2006-11-26 14:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by blondywithabrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋