my friend's bf keeps on cancelling her dates, he never calls her.
they have been going out for about 3 weeks, he says the she is is first american gf so hes kinda shy, but he never calls and the excuse her gives her is "well i'm playing vidio games w/ the guys"
she says that she wants go take a break from him but she still really like him, and thinks that she should give him another chance. so the questions is should she take a break from him or gave him another chance?
2006-11-26 14:31:13 · 5 answers · asked by Truth be told. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh yeah i forgot to say..
she's 14 and he's 12
2006-11-26 15:10:40 · update #1
It sounds like he's a bit shy ans immature. If she really wants to give him another go, try going on some group dates or a double date. That way they both feel comfortable. After, the group can go play some video games at an arcade or at someones house and have a blast.
But if he continues to cancel with such a lame excuse, he's not ready for a real relationship. There's lots of other cute guys out there.
2006-11-26 14:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Shiomi Ryuu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's clearly in the power position in this relationship and he knows it. The problem is she is letting him when she can easily turn the tables.
She should start to be unavailable for HIM. Next time he calls to make a date, she should accept, then cancel at the last minute, her reason being that "something came up" and no further explanation. OR she should tell him no, she's got plans that night. No further explanation with whom.
If he calls her, she should not answer it or she should be "about to run out the door to meet friends" and hang up on him first. She should NEVER return his calls because then he can avoid HER call. It's like a tennis match.
Also, she should NOT ask how he's doing, what he's thinking, how he feels about her, etc. She should show no interest in his opinion whatsoever. She should go out with her friends more and meet other guys to date, then tell the bf that they should "see other people" and then do exactly that. She will feel more independent of herself and less dependent on him.
If I had a daughter I would tell her the same thing I am telling you. He is using her and it won't lead to anything but a waste of relationship time on her part that would be better spent on other people. This happened to me when I was 19 and very naive.
2006-11-26 22:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by bookworm1171 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is to break when it is still early.(before your hearts breaks even worst)
I'm used to be like that too. I suppose I was too young at that time and still pretty much wanna spend time with my buddies. It is selffish, but that's how it is. Guys like me need some time to grow and think.
2006-11-26 22:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by Ho S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they are already taking a break!! look for the signs!
2006-11-26 22:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eihter u make or u break
2006-11-26 22:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋