there is this guy at work, he has a very playful personality, but i notice when i am not even acknowledging him, he does something to get my personal attention, he is having troubles with his fiancee and he said he is about to dump her, i find this guy very attractice, but i am knd of shy around him, i still talk to him, but he does flirt with me and i do not know wether he is doing it because he likes me or what -how can you tell if a guy likes you ?what should i do? this is a new job i just started working at and everyone is nice and friendly, and i like the job, i am a host at this restarant while he is a server, and chef, i dont know what t
2006-11-26 14:16:28 · 14 answers · asked by soccerqt 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i dont know what to do..
2006-11-26 14:16:46 · update #1
Do what your heart tell you to do. If you believe there is something between you and him, then go for it. But be carefull, because if there is another woman involved, it could become very hurtful for you.
2006-11-26 14:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by lavos1412 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Keep this in mind .... he's engaged and he's "thinking about dumping is fiancee" .... How would you feel right now if *you* were his fiancee and he was flirting with another woman and telling her he was thinking about dumping you. He has no need to tell you any of that ... he should end that relationship before beginning a flirtation with another. Keep in mind he might do the same thing to you one day.
If it were me, I would politely and cheerfully let him know that I am not interested in flirtations as long as he is engaged ... and maybe not afterwards either. If he is truly enamored with you, he will end the other relationship and continue pursuing you. Either way, be wary, as you could end up in "her" shoes one day.
2006-11-26 22:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a "player". You already know what a low character he is because he says he has a fiancee and there he goes trying to flirt with you and saying to YOU that he's planning to dump her. This is the oldest line in the book! Just like married men picking up floozies by saying "My wife doesn't understand me." If you go with him, you're the floozie noW and he wins!!
2006-11-26 23:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a JOB to do. Do it! Forget this clown and focus on your work. If push came to shove and the relationship got in the way of work, who do you think would be the first one fired? Yep - you! Drop a hint of sexual harassement and see what happens. Better yet, ask for the fiance's phone number for a girl-to girl chat.
2006-11-26 23:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by sheff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to be friendly & playful at work, However wait tell he say's the magic words" He dumped her" before you even think of getting involved with him. Remember your the new one there you don't want to earn a Reputation so soon!
2006-11-26 22:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Dee U 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please try not to rush things. Let him deal with his fiancee first. I've heard enough stories when people tell others how bad their relationships are to their bfs, gfs, or spouses. Don't mess up with him until he's done with his fiancee. Good luck.
p.s. Pay more attention to how he interacts with other female colleagues. You may be able to pick up all the info you need.
2006-11-26 23:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by claire d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave this guy alone. Obviously if he has a fiance & is flirting w/ other women he is no good! Liking someone like that is pointless, since he would do the same thing to you or anybody else. It's one thing if he ends up being single, but until then it seems disrespectful that he's acting this way when he's still w/ someone.
2006-11-26 22:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by lop 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If he is having troubles at home, he is probably setting you up to be "The Other Woman" in order to sabotage his relationship, which is what we guys do when we don't have the nerve to break it off cleanly...It might also be that he DOES have the nerve to break it off with his fiancee before he moves in on you, but that means he's setting you up to be his "Rebound Girl"
Either way I'm sure you deserve better.
2006-11-26 22:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Greg B 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if a guy is telling you that he has a fiance and he is going to dump her.....he might end up doing the same thing to you....he has to tell her that things are over before he even thing on another woman...red flag on this one girl....do you like to be one day in the same situation as his fiance?...I will say keep your distance with him ..will be another boy that have no commitments and free....runnnn
2006-11-26 22:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if you like this job and plan to keep it. You shouldn't date your colleague.
If he is in a such bad relationship with his fiancee, he is properly look for a life buoy. Don't get yourself in trouble!
2006-11-26 22:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by BB2791 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Agree with BB. Dating people you work with is a bad idea.
2006-11-26 22:26:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋