we love each other but i dk if we should break up before i leave for college 5 hrs away. we are talking about staying together even tho we will be apart but i dk whats the right thing to do.
2006-11-26 14:16:27 · 8 answers · asked by SweetieBear20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are not high school sweethearts. We met in college and now I am going to a new college to finish my bachelor's degree and hes going to another college close to home to finish his degree. He cant go to my college bc he wont get in bc he doesnt have a high GPA. I am not a liar. I do love him but am unsure if it will work if we are so far away.
2006-11-26 14:24:22 · update #1
There isn't a "right" thing to do, & no one can tell you what you should do.
There is also a widespread (but by no means 100%) phenomena of the first term breakup where young people who go to different colleges in different towns or states hang on a few months & then sever their relationship. This is not because they are terrible; it is because they both will be meeting many attractive people of the opposite sex of their own age who are available & some of who will express interest in them.
I relay this socialogical fact just to help you think & feel more realistically, no matter what you choose to do. The people who do not seperate during college in spite of the distance barrier tend to be very actively communicative across the miles & also meet the other's friends (think of them as "allies"). It can be done.
Good Luck in Your Studies.
Peace, No Matter What Happens.
;-)
2006-11-26 14:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by WikiJo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really in love with eachother you would do anything to stay together no matter what it would take, even if you were 5 hours away from eachother. My boyfriend and i have been going out for 9 months now, we stayed together even though hes in college 5 hours away and to be completely honest were more in love than ever right now. It deffinately brought us closer in a way. It almost makes seing him that much more special and your time with him more precious and you definately treasure it more. Some people think that long distance relationships dont work but to me if you really want it to it will and nothing can get in the way of your love for eachother even distance.
2006-11-26 14:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by chelsea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Statistically speaking, I think something like 90% or 95% of all high school couples break up before or while they are in college.
Since you said you are not sure about it, I think that is your answer. I think that if you are not toally sure about it, it's probably best to end it. You will be in two seperate worlds pretty much.
There's no harm in continuing..but ask yourself...where do you see the relationship going, what are the bad aspects of being away, and are they worth it for the guy.
2006-11-26 14:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by b-rad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you are considering breaking up just because you won't be in the same place, then you shouldn't. if you really like each other than you can make a long-distance relationship work. if i were you, i would really think about exactly how much this relationship means to me, and if it's worth the effort of making it work, then you should definitely at least try it. if you decide that you would rather not take the trouble, then you could break up, but moving away doesn't mean that you have to
2006-11-26 14:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by C_Millionaire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are even thinking about doing it, do it. Call it a temporary separation, but go out there and experience college. Focus on the opportunities and the classes. See each other on your holiday breaks and take it from there.
2006-11-26 14:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by theobracco4 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should give your relationship a chance before considering breaking it off. if it's not broken don't fix it, i mean if you say you love each other than try a little distance never hurt anyone, as the saying goes "distance makes the heart grow fonder". if it really doesn't work then think about it but right now it seems prefect the way it is.
2006-11-26 14:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by fallen_angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely, you appeared particularly particular in the way you worded it.. you say he's "not the only" for you.. lengthy distance relationships must be rather demanding.. and in case you comprehend for particular that you do not favor to be with him lengthy time period, then this is likely proper to split now. split now, take time to handle the emotional loss, and then head off to varsity with a clean new body of ideas in existence.
2016-11-27 00:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by cave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, then you wouldn't be thinking about breaking up with him. Liar.
2006-11-26 14:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋