I lost my daughter in August 26 and my mother in November 21,I`m having so many different emotions,I don`t know which way to go!
2006-11-26 14:15:32 · 8 answers · asked by pumpkin 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am sorry for your loss. Every one grieves differently and we all feel things in different ways.It sounds like a cliche but time does make it easier and it really does.Take time for yourself to remember the good times and the love shared.Hold the good in your heart to comfort you ,and I believe that death is the beginning of a new journey, not the end.Cry,cry and cry some more ,it does get better ,I know from experience. Don't worry...God does not give us more than we can handle.
2006-11-26 15:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by Miz Val 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so sorry to hear of your losses. As for grieving, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Crying is natural as well as being sad as long as it doesn't interfere with your livlihood. You still must eat, get dressed and function daily. But you cannot let the grief overwhelm you where you cannot think about anything else but your losses. I heard something wonderful once and it was to grieve for a while and then get on with celebrating that person's life. Celebrate your daughters life, no matter how long it was. Remember the good things, even if she was here for a few minutes on this earth or for many years. Same with your Mom. Remember her for the things that made her YOUR Mom. And you know what...while you're remembering the good, it's okay to cry along the way too. Crying is good and healthy as long as you are in control of it. Best of luck to you and may you be blessed to get through this!
2006-11-26 14:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omigosh. I'm so very very sorry. That is so sad for you and all your family.
Please find a group which deals with grieving. There is a chat room called www.groww.org/chat/gr.shtml
I used that when I was grieving and it was VERY HELPFUL to me. Try that.
There is a grieving process developed by Dr. Marion Kubler-Ross. The stages of grieving are:
Disbelief
Denial
Anger
Bargaining/Depression
Acceptance.
When grieving, I will write about it. I will put each above as a heading and write about what it means to me in that instance. Then I will write the 2nd heading and write about it in the same way, and so on. These stages are not necessarily neat in that you go from one to the next in an orderly fashion. You may jump around from one to the other, and probably will. Especially you may be very angry - and possibly at someone who doesn't deserve anger. This is misplaced anger.
Please, also, if you need to, ask your doctor for a specialist who deals in grief.
I'll pray for you.
2006-11-26 18:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry for your loss i lost a grandson and both parents within the last two years what you are feeling is a totally normal phase of grief and until u experience them all you will not be able to move on time also heals i know you don't understand that now but it helps ease the pain of your loss. talking about your loved ones will help and group therapy is an awesome outlet. again i feel your pain and hope you can move on with great memories of your loved ones.
2006-11-26 16:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dearest Pumpkin, grief never goes away but we learn to cope and live with it. There are many emotions which you may feel during your initial grieving process, depression, guilt, anger etc and other times you may feel empty or numb. Try to let the process happen naturally, give yourself time and be kind to yourself. Don't expect miracles but carry on as best you can. Accept the love and support of those who know and understand you......... time will help you. Good luck. I take solice in believing I will see my loved ones again oneday. :)
2006-11-26 14:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by genieejj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cry and cry there's no cure for a sadness in soul than praying praying praying and crying and I promise that one day you will stop and get up and be on track again not matter how long you take .....only you know the deepest pain and only you will know when to stop....stop listenign to people that will tell you ...you will get sick or what .....pain it is something that we all has to gothrough and no antidepressants will give yout he magic power thatn the tears can .......God love you more now when you are suffering he is with you beleive me
2006-11-26 14:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Yami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Group therepy or counseling...your not crazy, but it helps to have a place to talk about what your going through Well if you read your newspaper you can usually find support groups. If your in college, they usually have on campus counseling.
Good luck I hope you find what you need
2006-11-26 14:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by jmtate88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get support from friends. The only thing that helps me through is that sometimes I just imagine that they moved.
2006-11-26 14:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋