what should i do? im not looking for the answer.. "leave the b/f"
im asking the question should i tell him / and how..
2006-11-26 14:08:33 · 18 answers · asked by chelsღ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i cant wait to see what people have to say to this..
but im 15 & he is 18
2006-11-26 14:19:42 · update #1
The next time your boyfriend brings up sex let him know that you are a virgin. Make sure he knows that you aren't ready yet and it makes you uncomfortable when he is constantly bringing sex up. Tell him that when you are ready to have sex you'll let him know. If he really cares about you, he'll understand. If he doesn't, then you know he was only with you because he wanted to have sex with you.
2006-11-26 14:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Quentin's Mommy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him honestly and if you are not ready to have sex yet tell him that. If he really cares for you he will understand and be willing to wait until you are ready. Unfortunately, I know you said you didn't want to hear this but, if after having an open and honest discussion about it he is still pressuring you, then by all means you should leave him. If you do decide you are ready for sex I suggest you talk it over with your mother. In any case make sure you practice safe sex and that you are making the decision because YOU are ready. As a christian I feel I must tell you that the right thing to do is not to give in to temptation until your wedding night. Your virginity is a very special gift that you can only give once. Think about it!
2006-11-26 14:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jody May 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you tell him? Is he a virgin? I mean, seriously-if you start a relationship off with a lie, you're going to be more stressed than necessary. Wouldn't YOU rather tell him then let your ex-boyfriend tell him? It's not as if you cheated on your current boyfriend with the guy. You were in a relationship with him. Even though you're too young to be having sex, it does happen. Be honest with him. If he doesn't want to be with you because you had sex with a guy you were in a relationship, then he probably isn't worth your time anyway. Oh. I just skimmed through. Your ex did tell him. Your fault for lying and telling him you were a virgin. MAYBE he'll forgive you and want to continue being with you-but if he doesn't, it's your fault. That will teach you to be honest in future relationships.
2016-05-23 07:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't worry and there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. He may be hinting about his interests in sex and you should tell him whether or not that is something that you are ready for. Someone who cares about you will respect your wishes and you should leave someone who doesn't.
Whenever you are ready (though I don't know how old you are), you will also hopefully find someone who is considerate and respectful of you.
2006-11-26 14:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by Peter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if you don't like this answer...
First you need to tell him that you're a virgin and you plan to stay a virgin until you're married or whatever... if he does not respect / accept that I suggest that you leave him. (If he does great keep him.) It's better to be single and still have your dignity than to be treated as a sexual object and be hurt. Seriously, if you guys had sex, he'll probably dump you sooner or later - then you realized who's been played.
2006-11-26 14:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when he brings up the subject of sex again, that's when you tell him how you feel and what you are and that you are not ready.
If he cares about you, he will respect you and what you say
2006-11-26 14:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend and your boyfriend loves you, you should be able to tell him. I bet he would be happy. Why I say this is because he is your first . That's memories, but only have sex with him if you are ready. Don't rush it, just cuz he brings it up so much. Do it cuz you are really ready.
2006-11-26 14:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by star200252 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him that you just aren't interested in sex right now and you are waiting for the right time and the right person to do such things with.
2006-11-26 14:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by confused soul 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell him. If you have sex he'll know anyway. Save yourself for somebody that you know has mutual love for you and not some horny teenage boy who would say anything for sex. And please, please, please dont be stupid and not use protection. Nothing wrong with being a virgin til the time is truly right either.
2006-11-26 14:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Funnel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that u r not ready. If he truly loves u he will respect ur decision and stay with u.
2006-11-26 14:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by spunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋