my boyfriend and i had been dating for 3 years, then he cheated on me, dumping me and then asking another girl out, then the girl rejected him, then he came begging back, a year later i gave him his chance bak, thinking he's changed. but now i've hacked into his email, and found all these singles.net, true.com, y'know single online pages, and now knowing that he's looking for someone else now, but i want revenge, cause this is prolly the 5th time, including minor ones, that he's done this online, on me. how can i get revenge? or resolve this?
2006-11-26 14:06:17 · 10 answers · asked by lilo_flower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Easy. DUMP HIM. Case closed. (Don't use your energy on revenge. Exhausts you, and just wastes more time on the loser.)
2006-11-26 14:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge for someone like that is to move on and start making your self happy. Nothing makes a miserable person more miserable than watching someone he has been bringing down move up. I used to be 170 and my ex cheated on me with 5 different women he worked with. When I left him, and lost 50 pounds he has never wanted me more and the more and more I tell him NO, it makes him mad and upset. I am good friends with him now, but believe me I would never get back with him and it still kills him today that I have never been this happy and it is with out him. Start doing things to make you happy, happiness shows right through and people can see that a mile away.
2006-11-26 22:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Alleycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him.
I have been cheated on more times than not and I can tell you that 99% of the time HE WILL ALWAYS CHEAT AGAIN!!!!!
My first 3 boyfriends ALL cheated on me... I don't know if I was just a jerk magnet or what, but being 13-14yrs old, cheating is a different story.
I didn't date at all through high school because a) i was a bit of a porker, and b) I attracted jerks.
Fast forward to my freshman year of college. I met a guy that I really connected with... he was sweet, cute in a quirky way, and truly liked me for me (it didn't hurt that I had lost a ton of weight).
We spent every waking moment together...lost our virginity to each other, and were "in love".
No sooner had it started (we only dated for 2 months--however the amount of time we spent together was equivalent to a year) things started to change. He began having secret conversations with another girl, and even would "cheat" on my computer. He would talk about how he wished he had met her earlier and things would be different. He would get mad when I looked at the computer screen when he was talking to her and would always place the blame on me when I made any kind of accusation about his relationship with her.
One night when I had the flu, he ended it with me.... 2 days later he was with her.
Months went by and we began speaking again... and like your's he asked for another chance--- stupidly I gave in, only to have him go after a friend of mine. (of course we broke up before he did it).
Needless to say, it was a vicious cycle for a year... break up, get close, things would go bad, end, start over till finally I had enough....
he now dates my old college roommate (who I despise-- they are perfect for each other)
I have been with an amazing guy for 4 years now and I know he would NEVER in a million years cheat because he knows how it feels.
Find yourself someone who respects you and means it. Actions speak louder than words.
and a piece of advice--- snooping only lets you see things you wont like.
If you have to snoop, you obviously don't trust him..... and how can you be with someone you dont trust?
2006-11-26 22:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him go. Do not waste your time planning revenge. You don't want to look back on this situation thinking, "man, I shouldn't have done that."
You know he hasn't changed, and is only stringing you along. You need to look out for yourself. Make sure you are emotionally, mentally, and physically stable, so you can start fresh with a new man.
2006-11-26 22:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by smanthajm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look at your part in this. and you do have one.It is unfortunately by forgiving him he took this to be it is ok to fool around, as you will forgive him again if he gets caught,With any relationship there must be in place DEAL breakers and of course cheating is on the top of the list.Over time he got to know your weaknesses, and was able to push buttons, that gets him his needs met. You have to have confidence in your self so that you do not have to put up with such behaviour. What I am saying is it is you that have to change what you will or will not accept in a relationship, and let this be known from day one and I do wish you well
2006-11-26 22:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only revenge that i personally think hurts worse is move on from him and let him see that you dont need him. Also... I think it was a bad move even taking him back... He cheated on you!!! That means there was something lacking for him... Why would you want someone who doesnt care about hurting you back? AND you hacked into his mail.... you obviously have trust issues and I think you should move on. I really am mind boggled as to why people let themselves be so unhappy.
2006-11-26 22:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by coffeejitterzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are not trustworthy. He may cheat but you hack his e-mail. Time to find other partners that each of you can trust. If you invite a snake in from the cold, nurse him back to health, then he bites you, he will only say, 'You knew I was a snake when you took me in!" as you lay dying, on the floor, from the bite.
2006-11-26 22:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by bpember744@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater...I know you've heard that before and that is a very true statement. Stop letting that man play you for a fool...dump him!
2006-11-26 22:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him on http://www.dontdatehimgirl.com that would be really funny. And leave him alone and go on with your business, you can find plenty of decent men out there. Good luck and God bless***
2006-11-26 22:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste your time probing. Move on
2006-11-26 22:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋