My parents are still calling at all hours?

Question

My Dad and my Aunt had a little disagreement earlier today. My dad called me and we talked about it for a while, I mentioned that maybe my aunt had thought he was overbearing( he can be overbearing but does NOT realize it AT ALL) He said, "I dont know" we started talking about something else, and it seemed like the end of the discussion right there. Just now at almost 10pm, he calls me back asking, "What do YOU mean I am overbearing?That is not nice!!" I answered, "I did not say you were overbearing. I said Maybe Aunt---- thinks you are, she did mention that A LONG TIME AGO" My Dad said, "Ok I'm sorry I misunderstood you" I said ok, then he started going into the same stuff with my aunt all over again. I said "It is LATE. Can we talk about this tomorrow?" He said ok and did not seem mad. I am very close to leaving the phone off the hook at night because of these calls at all hours.

I have told them and will tell them again tomorow,"When you call that late I think there is an emergency.It is very frustrating to me to have to run out of the bathtub or where ever to answer the phone. I have work and school and VERY different hours than you have. Calling late or early for stuff that can wait is almost like crying wolf.PLEASE do not call after 9 or 930pm unless something is VERY important and cannot wait."

Again, I hate to sound mean, but this is not the first time they have called like this, I have been woken up more than once for stuff like this.They can be VERY controlling. They tried to give me a 1030 pm curfew when I was 25. I moved out at that point. I am so sick of being overrun in MY house.

Answer 1

I wouldn't recommend you do anything about it unless they are seriously interfering with your ability to work, sleep, or if they call like this very often. Really, it looks like your parents love you, and value your opinion. On top of that, they also seem to enjoy talking to you. Take it for what it's worth, but that should be a compliment.

You are clearly an adult, but did you move out within the last few years? Maybe they actually miss being able to talk to you more regularly. Many parents enjoy seeing their children grow up, and see their kids become more interesting (from a conversational standpoint) and responsible.

If they really call excessively, it might be helpful to explain that you need to wake up early, or get a lot of work done. Try to reschedule your conversations, instead of leaving them hanging. Chances are, they care about what you're doing, too, and don't want to interfere so much that the rest of your life suffers. Last, if you really can't coordinate schedules with them, try e-mailing. Most importantly, be nice, they might not even know that these calls bother you.

good luck!

Answer 2

Your family sounds rude and disrespectful to you...calling you at all hours...about family problems....when you need to sleep because you have to work?! UGH!! I would be irritated myself!! I love my family but GOD....there is a line there between loving your family and needing time for yourself.
If you have a phone in your bedroom, I would turn the ringer off after a certain hour of the night and pray to GOD that nothing bad has happened to your family during the rest of the night. Because how else would you know?! They call you constantly, so you couldn't possibly leave your ringer on in case of an emergency. That will come back to haunt them if they aren't careful!!!! Good luck with that. I hope you are able to sleep peacefully.

Answer 3

If he cant tell his mom and dad head to head the place he is going then he desires to in basic terms stay abode. If his abode life is that undesirable then he desires to tell somebody in school and he could be positioned into somebody elses care till he's eighteen. If he is going to get emancipated then he could have a job and that gets him out of the abode for some hours prevalent. Being a young person isn't undemanding quite once you have undesirable mom and dad yet in that concern toddlers in basic terms would desire to artwork not undemanding in school and get a job on the earliest age obtainable and flow out the day they turn 18. If there is abuse in contact nonetheless he desires to tell somebody NOW formerly he's tousled for all times.

Answer 4

I know that is your father and you try to show respect. A good idea is if he calls you late at night to talk about your aunt, you abruptly start crying and tell your dad that you're sleepy,and how you love him and your aunt and how you don't want to get in the middle of it. That will work especially if crying is not in your character. good luck.

Answer 5

Believe me i hate calls late at night, but maybe you should just turn the answering machine on and let it pick it up. If it is that important they will leave a message.

Answer 6

Only answer the phone during certain hours, otherwise let it go to the answering machine. First you must tell your parents that you love them but will only answer their calls "live" during the hours of "x" to "y".

Answer 7

Least said, soonest mended. Simply say, "Dad/Mom, I won't answer the phone after xx p.m." And then unplug the phone. Good luck!

Answer 8

Well if your parents are still calling you at all hours it doesn't mean that they're overacting its just that they wanted to make sure that every thing's alright ,they just want to know if you
are safe,or something might happened to you.So don't be angry with them,they always know what's best for you.

Answer 9

Just let the machine get it. Or simply unplug it.

Answer 10

That would be a bad idea, in my opinon. Be thankful that you have a family.