My wifes brother sill lives with me!?

Question

Well my wife offered her brother to stay with his family (family with 6 children) to stay in our house for about 2 months after coming from the philippines. They came about January 2006 and... it is the end of November. Her sister FINALLY started her nursing job and her husband does not want to have a job. I don't know what to do with them. They still do not have enough money to be on their own. They also have no idea what they will do after they leave us. What also makes me pretty angry is that they bought a brand new laptop... i didn't check it out but it had VIAO on the top. Even now they still do not pay rent to us. It kinda gets on my nerves to know that they have been free loading electricity, internet, food, and heat. ETC. Also my wife is getting mad because her parents are paying for anything they need. Education, gas ( my wifes parents bought them a car), food. Errg i don't know what to do. Give them their own house to live in. I don't know if u got any tips please give some

Answer 1

Wow....they've sure got you pegged!!!

Answer 2

Communicate.

Tell brother it is time to move on and establish his own household. You can be generous and offer him some help, like paying his security deposit and the 1st months rent IF they find something by the end of the year. That's cheaper in the long run than supporting the guy and 6 kids ad infinitum.

You must also tell him it is time to start paying rent & utilities. His wife has a job now & it is time for them to contribute. If they don't, stop being a sucker. Change your internet so they don't have access to your account. Make the guy get his own account. Buy only the food that you will feed to your family. If it just you and your wife, stop buying food and start eating out every day (that's cheaper than feeding the 8 relatives, too). Once they stop being so comfortable, they'll start looking for their own place pronto.

Of course, you'll need your wife's support for this. If you don't have it, get a divorce and cut your losses. I'm not kidding.

Answer 3

Give them a time limit and stick to it. I would tell them they have 60 days and they need to have a plan and put it into action. A year is more than long enough to live underneath someone. They are now taking advantage. The brother needs to find a job even if it is working at a fast food place, something is better than nothing. And no man/woman lives for free. Put your foot down, come up with a plan between you and your wife a reasonable amount of time 30-60 days, tell them know and stick to it. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 4

Start charging them rent it is time for them to grow up and move out, they could stay with your wife's parents, or sell the car and get a place of their own.

Answer 5

This happened to my mom with her mom and brother. Sometimes you just need to be honest with how you feel to them. How does your wife feel about the situation? Tell them that they are adults and they need to start life NOW. Don't give them any money cause god knows when you will see it again. You have a family of your own that you need to take care of and he needs to realize that.

Honestly talk to your wife about it and set up a deadline of when they need to go. I hope all works well! :)

Answer 6

Give them 30 days to move out and stick to it. If they complain they don't have enough money -- tell them to sell the laptop. Six months is more than enough time to find a job and save enough money to support themselves.

Answer 7

MUST TELL THEM THEY WILL BE PAYING RENT
TELL HER HUSBAND HE MUST GET A JOB
IF NOT THEY WILL HAVE TO MOVE OUT

Answer 8

Really, give them the boot. They're freeloading and they know it!