My Boyfriend of 6months has changed for the better in the last two weeks, and this is after i told him i was going to leave if he didn't. In the past he cheated on me once, and he has pulled some very immature moves, but lately he has been sweet as ever because he claims he realised 'he is in love'. What i'm afraid of is this being short term. I have another GREAT GUY offering himself to me, and although the wise choice seems to be to leave my current boyfriend, my problem is what if my current boyfriend has actually changed? And if i do leave him, what if this other guy and me just don't work out. That would leave me in a bad situation....What do i do?
2006-11-26 13:38:28 · 12 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and i think i'm in love with my current boyfriend...but it may be lust at a young age of 18 you know?
2006-11-26 13:44:52 · update #1
yes, people can change, but they can just as easily change back to their old selves too. the best way to decide is to choose which one you like most. and when you make that decision, you should prepare yourself for whatever outcome it may bring. there's no way you could tell now what the future may bring, therefore, if the one you chose failed you someday - there shouldn't be any regret.
2006-11-26 13:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats tough, let me start by saying that it really sounds like you love your current boyfriend alot, and since he changed, FOR YOU, that shows alot. But it has only been 2 weeks, you cannot be positive that he has changed for good!
Give it a little time, and if you see his old habits starting to resurface its probably time to try this other guy, and if it does not work there probably another guy around the corner just waiting to give you his heart.
2006-11-26 13:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Im that girl! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take some time and think about what you really want. If you really like your boyfriend you should be proud of the fact that he is working to keep you. A lot of guys would not make that effort. If you really don't want to be with him though, you need to make that decision and let him know. Don't keep him hanging.
2006-11-26 13:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by iwannabeanofficer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello --- Honestly, you can't change poeple. If, I were
you and you were seriously going to give him a second
chance, I would be very, very cautious and go very slow.
I wouldn't go very fast. But, if you feel you truly care
about your current boyfriend and I would stay where
you are. As you might regret it in the end
2006-11-26 14:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by ARRIVE ALIVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly believe your boyfriend has changed, then go for it. but chances are that he hasnt changed at all. he is probably putting on a front to keep you off his azz for a while. if you think that there is a chance for you and this other guy then hell yeah, go for it. take care and good luck. i personally think that you shouldnt have taken him back at all. once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-11-26 13:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick a guy and hope its the right one. Because having one on the side is only going to get someone hurt.
2006-11-26 13:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't get over cheating like that, I would probably give the new guy a chance
2006-11-26 13:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur bf made an effort to change for you, it wasnt to gett dumped. give him a 2nd chance
2006-11-26 13:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Kendall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, you can't change people. i've tried that in the past and unless there's a major drasticreason why he should do it, sorry hun, it's temporary.
2006-11-26 13:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Angel in Practice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People can change
2006-11-26 13:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by lovely2cu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋