Why have I lost my maternal instincts. I am so against having kids?

Question

because I think there more trouble than they are worth. If they rebelled as much as me than I 'll have hell to pay. Is there a time when your body says that it wants kids?

Answer 1

Why not visit a maternity clinic and see babies. Go visit a day care and maybe you'll change your mind when you see cute kids playing and running around.

Answer 2

It is hard to answer this question forthright because I do not know your age. I knew from a very early age that I wanted a child. Yes, being pregnant is tough on your body, yes, children can be upsetting sometimes but I feel, at some point, your maternal instincts will show themselves or not. Not every woman is meant to have children and that's OK.

Answer 3

Could be hormonal or your body is not in good form to have children. Maybe just a bad experience from your past.
Sometimes there is a time when the body cries out to be child bearing, but that does not make it the right tim.
I think once you are happy with a partner, you are living stable the little baby bug might kick in.

Answer 4

Being childless is a perfectly acceptable choice for women, just as is choosing to have children. Women don't HAVE to be baby-makers; it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you, or something missing in you, because you don't want to have children.

Maybe one day you'll want to have kids; maybe not. Either decision is FINE, as long as it's what YOU want. Above all, don't get pregnant because you think you should, or because someone else in your life wants a child (or grandchild, or whatever).

(BTW, I'm one of those women who loves kids - especially my own son, who is as stubborn as I am. BUT, I will argue with anyone that women have every right NOT to have children, and that there is nothing wrong with that decision! In fact, I think it's a very brave choice to make - it would be a lot easier to conform, have kids you don't want to have, and be miserable for the rest of your life!)

Answer 5

I am not sure. I never did have that. However, I did have a child in 1999, figuring it would be my one and only chance. I only had the maternal instinct AFTER I had her..never before... I never had babysat and didn't like kids much but this will improve some after you have any kids. However, I still like mine best (>:

Answer 6

I swore that I'd never have kids. I enjoyed my freedom too much. Then I got to the point where I really wanted a baby but found out that for complicated medical reasons I can't. I would say that you will probably change your mind in time.

Answer 7

Ur just afraid ur going to reap what u sow. U never lose ur maternal instincts, u really don't get them until after u have a baby. Its really a psychological thing, when ur ready u'll know. Your body is ready every month, its called a ovulation.

Answer 8

I wouldn't say that there's a time. It might happen and it might not. Some people just choose not to have kids, plain and simple. All kinds of things factor into it ranging from the cost, having to deal with each age level and what comes with it, where you live and if you have the room, your spouse maybe wanting them and changing your mind, your love for your spouse making you want to have a baby with them, etc.

Answer 9

To have lost your maternal instincts would mean that you have kids. Do you? if not you can loose something that you never had

Answer 10

Sometimes hormones have alot to do with it. Other times, it's just the mood you're in. And then again there might be a time when you wake up some day and say "I'm ready"