i'm 14 years old and my boyfriend is 17. i've known him for a while and he's the most sincere guy i know. i've already tryed convincing my mom about him, but she deosn't want to listen. she thinks all senior boys are the same. i want her to be part of my life and i want her to understand that he means a lot to me and that he hasn't tryed anything at all. but she still thinks all he wants to do is have sex.
really, my boyfriend is a hopeless romantic who crys when he watches the notebook, would rather hold hands then have sex, and finds the cute little things the most important. but as many times as i tell my mom this, she doesn't listen. she only wants to stick with the fact that he's 17 and he can drive.
she had a boyfriend who was 18 when she was 14. and really, it's just a number, when it all comes down to it, does it really matter?
2006-11-26 13:36:32 · 25 answers · asked by poprocksncoke030 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm 14 years old and my boyfriend is 17. i've known him for a while and he's the most sincere guy i know. i've already tryed convincing my mom about him, but she deosn't want to listen. she thinks all senior boys are the same. i want her to be part of my life and i want her to understand that he means a lot to me and that he hasn't tryed anything at all. but she still thinks all he wants to do is have sex.
really, my boyfriend is a hopeless romantic who crys when he watches the notebook, would rather hold hands then have sex, and finds the cute little things the most important. but as many times as i tell my mom this, she doesn't listen. she only wants to stick with the fact that he's 17 and he can drive.
she had a boyfriend who was 18 when she was 14. and really, it's just a number, when it all comes down to it, does it really matter?
also.
i felt like stating, that we promised to each other no sex until each of us was ready. && we've been following that.
2006-11-26 13:49:12 · update #1
It doesn't matter if it's fair or not - your mother is responsible for you, and what she says, goes. Your mom clearly knows what she's talking about, having been in your shoes.
When you are no longer her responsibility, you can date whomever you want. Until then, follow her rules.
She loves you.
2006-11-26 13:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Pangolin 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think the point shes making is that your way to young for him, and yes, age is just a number but there is a huge difference between a 14 year old and a 17 year old, but there is almost no difference between a 32 year old and a 35 year old.
get the idea? and im not saying that your relationship is wrong, im just trying to help explain where your mom is coming from
first off, if you guys do have sex, you need to start thinking wheater or not this guy has been lying and acting the way you want him to act to get what he wants
but if that doesnt happen, and your relationship is normal, then just give it time to prove to your mother that it is a normal relationship where the guy is not just using the girl to fall in love w/ him just so he can have sex with her.
because just to let you know, men are the only sex that tries to trick younger girls into having sex, its not the other way around, so there is no way you would understand unless you were either a guy or knew how a guy thought
2006-11-26 13:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by 63godtoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom should come first.
Choose mom over the boyfriend.
Mom knows best, especially from experience.
Tell the boy to just chill until you are 17, then see how long he hangs around. If he leaves, he just wants sex. If he waits until your 17, then you just may have a keeper.
Too young to be filling your heart with love. Stick to the books first, then love comes into play after your education.
2006-11-26 13:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize that in just a few short months this boy can and probably will go to jail and be labeled a pedophile for the rest of his life if he's in a relationship with you? yep, once he turns 18. If you really care about him and he does you, tell him to come back when you get old enough. Parents may seem like they don't understand anything about teens, but we do, we've been where you are and our memories don't fade that easy. Your Mom is just doing what she is supposed to do. It is her responsibility to look out for you and to do the best she can to protect you, don't be so hard on her. When your Mom had an 18 year old BF at 14 that was a different time, like I said they go to jail for that now days.
2006-11-26 13:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It will matter next year, when he turns eighteen and your only fifteen. You are way too young to deal with sex and protection and all of those things. You should be enjoying your childhood, not throwing your mom's past in her face. Different times. Back then women married early because times were hard and families married off thier kids as soon as they could to support them. Fortunately we are not living in those times anymore, so be a kid and stop playing grownup. It does matter. If you guys decide to have sex, your not even old enough to get a job yet.
2006-11-26 13:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Ofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom usually knows, she's probabally right. I'm sure the more she debates it with you, the more you will want to be with him and try.
Perhaps the best advise I can offer is: the thing between ur legs is one of ur most valuable assets(The other is ur mind) if you start giving it out eventually no one will want it and it will be worthless. If you sit on it till the right time it will be good as gold. If you do it now you'll get warts, or the hiv, or the crotchcritters.
2006-11-26 13:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he isnt interested in sex, but at 17 the last thing I wanted to do was hold hands and cry at movies, most 17 actually any age guy is like the lyrics from static x song, 'bang bang bang'
2006-11-26 13:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by pvfd102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does matter when you are that young just that point that you are only 14 and he is 17 years old is almost perverted. I know you probably think that you have it all together that he doesn't want to have sex with you,but he does. I think maybe he can not relate to any girls his age and that he is kinda immature but I could be wrong but I guess you will find out when he ask you for sex because that time will come before you know it. Right know your just too young but I don't think any one can change your mind right now you will learn with time, but what a hard lesson it can be. God bless you, and be smart.
2006-11-26 13:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow where did you find a guy like that? wish there was alot of them in the world. lol. but suggest that (might sound childish) you guys hang out together or invite him over to dinner and a movie IN THE LIVING ROOM so your mom can see there no monkey buissness going on. iunno how to make a mother shut up about this kind of stuff. i guess its just a motherly thing but my mom didnt mind this and i got married to my wonderful man. hopefully your mom will see this charm from your guy. if you guys have been together for a long time mention that to your mom that he wants to be with you for that long and longer.
2006-11-26 13:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by wendy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the exact same problem;; except my b/f is 18 & im 15. only im starting to realize that all my b/f wants is sex
but to help your problem.. has your mom met him? my mom just knew "alex" from the neighborhood and assumed alot of stuff. maybe invite him over to dinner.. be sure to tell him to act as real as possible and not "fake polite"..
hope this helps. && i`ll be sure to read the answers to get help for my similar problem..
2006-11-26 13:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by chelsღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋