we are happily married....but we want an open relationship what are the advantages and disavantages of this...we've talk about it and never done anything YET...please include you age
2006-11-26 13:17:53 · 22 answers · asked by Kim Wise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your right age has nothing to do with my question...i just want to make sure some kid isnt answering i dont talk to kids unless its in person
2006-11-26 16:37:00 · update #1
I'm 40 something. I have done this and it works as long as you follow the rules that you make to each other. I always said go out and have fun just tell the person your seeing this is a one time thing. The problems started when you whisper on the phone and sneak around then you make your partner jealous. And it's down hill from there. Good Luck you horney devil.
2006-11-26 13:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by Fireman T 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My age is 35
I think that when a couple it is thinking to have an open relationship it is when there's no more love between them , why? because love can not let you share another person ...what are the advantages......none.............and the disavantages ...You can loose the person for good ..she or he can fall in love and they can decide to live together ....are you willing to loose this person if this is happening ....It is all this to have an excuse to be free to sleep around?......becarefull sometimes we take steps in life that we would never be able to go back on track and fix the way it used to be....if you do not love the person ...just try to divorce but do not play games marriage it is serious stuff
2006-11-26 13:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 51 and not at all a prude, but I cannot see any advantage to an open relationship. The thought of my husband with another woman makes me want to throw up.I don't understand how two people in love and happy could even think of having sex with another person. How can a person be so sure that nothing will come of the relationship their partner has with another person? How can you be so sure that when you have an argument that it won't be thrown in your face? I know the answer to both those questions already. You can't. Not worth the risk if you ask me.
2006-11-26 13:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all I am 26 and I had an open relationship. I cared more for this person than he cared for me. The advantage is you get to see other people the disadvantage what if you develop feelings or that person develops feelings for you and you are left with the ultimatim to end your marriage. It is very risky and I dont recommend it but why do you want it to be open. you should explore options together rather than breaking the marriage bond between each other.
2006-11-26 13:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want an "open" marriage then get a divorce. When you got married you made a vow to one another, as well as signed certrain papers. Those papers were basically a contract that stated that the only one you would have in your bed is one another. By having an "open" marriage you would be in breach of contract as well as committing adultery, in not only the eyes of "God" (if one beleives that way) but also the eyes of the law. If one of you contracts an STD, HIV, HPV and gives it to the other partner in this "marriage" they would have no recourse to sue the "offending" party because they would be just as guilty and in the eyes of the law would basically be setting themselves up for such. If you wanted to F U C K around you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.
2006-11-26 13:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The big disadvantage as I can see is trust is replaced by jealousy and suspicion.
I've known several couples who swing and it seems like they each want to have their fun and freedom but quietly wish their partner wanted only them. One couple, she gets very upset when he invites women to their 'lifestyle parties' and when she found he had photos on his cell phone from the parties. 2 other couples, the men have stated that it's natural for them to want multiple partners but that their wives shouldn't. The wives of course are teaching them a lesson by doing the same.
Once you've crossed that line, you can't undo any nasty emotional turmoil that follows, so think about it really good.
Then their is always the obvious downside, like catching an STD and sharing it with your spouse.
2006-11-26 13:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why be married??? An open marriage is a bad idea. And someone will get hurt. Well over 30 years of age.
2006-11-26 13:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ever heard 2 is a couple 3 is a crowd its not worth the risk i seen to many married people fail because of open relationships
2006-11-26 13:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by angela s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bad idea man there could be a chance that your wife could fall in love with another if you ask me i say you both should just stick together and enjoy your future. Oh 25 by the way
2006-11-26 13:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by heatnix_25 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need a relationship built on trust and understanding, if it's an open ended relationship you will understand eachother more and it will bring you closer together. Good Luck :)
2006-11-26 13:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by Imogen F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋