feel like a piece of you is missing? My children have been the center of my world but are now of the age where they are making friends, venturing out, and doing sleep overs. My middle one is at a sleep over tonight and I feel like a void. I also feel this way when my oldest goes with his father on his over night visits.
2006-11-26 13:10:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I also miss my children when they are gone. I spent a lot of time as a single mom with no one to take the kids once in a while and it's like they became an extension of me. I talk with my best friend about this - she doesn't understand because she is perfectly happy when her kids are gone; but she listens and tries to understand. I'm not looking to change that feeling because I like the very close relationship I have with my children. I'd worry about myself if I ever got to the point where I didn't miss them. It's normal (for some of us), and although it can be uncomfortable you can learn distract yourself with activities or enjoy the freedom to take of window shopping or go out to dinner without having to make arrangements for the kiddos.
2006-11-26 13:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by K L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of our children are grown and married (3 of the 4 don't even live in the same state with us) and I still feel like something is missing and they are since they aren't here any longer. I miss them everyday, but they have to grow and have their own lives, it's just something we have to accept. Like it or not.
2006-11-26 13:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like that all the time also. Theres nothing wrong with you. It just means that your a good mom, and you care deeply for your kids. I try to do things that I dont get to do often like watch whatever I want on T.V. or read a book. Two of mine has moved out and that was completely awful. It took me along time to get used to that. You'll get used to it over time. Do things for yourself. I just bet you deserve it!!
2006-11-26 13:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by pebbles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I never have, because I have always had outside interests that have kept me busy. My daughter was gone for eight months when she first started college, I had a job, my hobbys and my friends to keep me occupied I didn't wallow in the self pity of not having my daughter there. Although I love my daughter and she always was the light of my life she was never my entire life.
2006-11-26 13:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; my husband and I worked very hard to maintain our relationship independent of the children. It is very telling that you said it is hard on you when your oldest goes with his father on his overnight visits; perhaps when your relationship with him broke up you focused too much on the children.
2006-11-26 13:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sassygirlzmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you are just getting used to the fact that your children are growing up and finding their independance. i am sure that this will all get easier as time goes on. cherish the time you are together and look forward to hearing about what they did while they were away with friends/family, it is all part of the circle of life.
2006-11-26 13:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried getting a hobby or making friends of your own? You've been a wife and a mother and those are fine things to be, but you also need to be yourself.
2006-11-26 14:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is time for you to live a little, maybe get some you time, stop always thinking of the kids, I can see where you are coming from though.
2006-11-26 13:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by spunky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to find other interest,,,remember little mistakes now save big mistakes later, let them make them, and cheer them when they do the right thing, and maybe they will be ok.
2006-11-26 13:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over that honey . I remember feeling that way ........
many years ago .
2006-11-26 13:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋