I need help 2 stop cutting...................?

Question

i've been cutting 4 two yrs. now and i haven't gotten any help.
my mom doesn't notice, she's to busy with work,my dad left me,so he's basically dead 2 me.
and i just don't know what to do or how 2 stop...........
help?

My mother is always checked out,she's all about the money.

Answer 1

Strange how a worthless piece of metal can become a prized possession. I'm really glad you want to quit, you don't deserve any of this. Try to take things one day at a time. And don't try to quit all at once. All it does is make things a lot worse. Quit slowly and quit because YOU want to not because someone else wants you to. Otherwise you never really get over it. Ive been a cutter for about two years as well but I haven't for a long time. Try snapping rubber bands on your wrist or ankle. or squeeze a salted ice cube (sounds weird but it burns like hell) I know of a website that really helps. Its got tons of ideas on how to quit sent in by real people of all ages who self injure, not some doctor who thinks they know it all. Check it out. They also have some really cool art, stories, and poems worth a look. http://recoveryourlife.com/Self_Harm_Recovery/default.aspx
You can make it, I promise. I know that probably doesn't sound like much coming from a 14 year old cutter....But I really believe anyone including you can quit. Don't give up. You really can beat this.

Answer 2

Look to the beginning to find what caused you to first cut yourself. What has driven you to continue to do it? Get all of these thoughts together and then ask your mom for help. I know this will be very hard. Perhaps you can find some websites about it that will educate your mom to the reasons why this happens. Do not worry that your mom is too busy with work. Her daughter needs help and will come first. Hopefully, she will make an appointment with the doctor for you so he/she can determine the underlying cause for your emotional pain. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out ok.

Answer 3

You need a professional to help. Part of how you stop with cutting, is figuring out the why.

It's been my experience that cutting is usually done to either: a) feel something when one is generally in a state of numbness as a reaction to trauma or stress, or b) a mechanism for establishing control in one's life when there is a general feeling that things are out of control.

In several of the cases I've worked with, I've found that the best success they had was in find out what emotion (or something to that effect) that they were suppressing (not repressing, there's a difference), and helping them figure out how to express it in a healthy, hopefully constructive, manner.

You need an outlet. Abusing your own body isn't going to do it. You're looking for someone to notice your anger, pain, and distress, and your parents aren't doing it. So talking to someone who's going to be focusing on you, and only you, for that period of time, will probably help you realize that it is their issue, not your's.

Answer 4

I can actually relate. I did it for about 15 years until I got caught. Now, I have stopped doing it but I'm on antidepressants and I go to therapy. I have relapsed a couple of times but if I can help myself after 15 years, you can after 2. you should talk to your mom about this. Tell her what's going on . She may think you're trying to get attention though so it's tricky. It's probably better then getting caught though. That's a bad experience. Trust me. You and your mom should go to therapy together. My psychotherapist actually suggested keeping a rubberband around your wrist. When you get the urge, snap the rubberband.

Answer 5

im a cutter also and have tried to stop, but something always comes up that makes me start again...i dont think you can quit by yourself, you need some profesional help. Having friends you can talk to definately helps, so confide in a friend who you know loves you and wont judge you, but will help you. Good luck and if you wanna talk, just email me...You can do this!!

Answer 6

That has happened to me various times. I discovered the value of life. It is basically this. "You have only one life, is this all you want out of it? Cutting yourself? You can do many things for your pleasure." If that doesn't work, read the Sword of Truth series by Terry Goodkind, that's what pulled me out of it. It really starts to take effect after the sixth book.

Answer 7

im not gonna say oh go talk to you guidance counslor or any of that crap, but i will say.. i think you should tell your mom as long as shes not over-reactive like mine. if she is..i dont know. maybe you should tell her anyway? im not really the one to answer this kind of question, but ill try by saying, if your doing it b.c your depressed or whatever, go buy a book on depression or something, but you dont sound like that kind of person, so just tell your mom, & get real advice from a professional, ¬ these people online.
<3i hope it all works out for ya.

Answer 8

This is a serious situation and you need to tell someone, anyone.
Call a local mental health center, talk to a doctor, tell your councilor, teachers, anyone who will listen!
You are hurting emotionally and need help in controling this urge to hurt yourself.

Answer 9

if your at school...go to the school counselor or nurse and explain things. tell them about your cutting and ask them to help.
if not go see a therapist/counselor or go to the hospital. also try talking to your mum about things. its hard to stop..take it from me. you need a lot of self-determination. if you dont want to go anywhere personally the internets a great place to start. google: stopping self harm.
good luck. email me if needs be
xxx

Answer 10

My cousin used to cut so what helped her was that she went to the hospital and got mental help. you need to figure out what makes you stresses and fix it. maybe it will work for you too. I hope so :-).