Who on Here believes in "Spanking" Their Children?

Question

Personally, I believe using the restroom every now and then will work wonders. The Supernanny plots are crappy new stuff that is all fake and not true. REASONING WITH YOUR CHILDREN??? Come on now, your the parent and as parents I know said around me... I'd rather punch you before some on out in those streets get to ya. Also, sometimes, grounding doesnt work. Really, do you think kids are going to oblige to that. My nephew gets in stores and throws stuff off shelves and go's crazy literally. My mother posps his hands and he cries rather loud and that's it. i feel that all children need spankings every now and then. i think of it as a form of love. your thoughts?

Answer 1

I don't think that teaching a child they are not the ones in charge has to involve pain or fear. I am a mother of 4 and a parent educator. There are much more intelligent ways to discipline your child and to teach them without a doubt that YOU are in charge and their job is to follow instructions. Parents need to be excellent role models for their kids and you just can't teach them to remain calm when angry if you hit them for doing wrong. There doesn't need to be any reasoning at all - I am in charge of YOU and you will do as I say. If you have a positive relationship with your child and if they respect you, they will want to not make you mad.

Answer 2

It is all in the raising. Depending on what kind of parents the parents are. My son is 2 1\2, and yes I have to spank him on occasion, but the problem with spanking is that parents do it when they are angry, and that is no time to spank a child. When I have to spank my son I sit him down afterward and let him know exactly why he got a spanking, as to clear up any mis-understanding. My wife and I have a system with our son. There are places and times to play and not to play. Stores are obviously NOT the place to play. We just got finished Christmas shopping and my mother says well, how did you shop with him with you? And well that's easy, we told him we were getting ideas to let Santa know what he might get if he keeps being good till Christmas. You know, this doesn't work with everybody and some people don't think that spending time with their child is important. Well, that's why kids freak out in stores and throw tantrums, for attention. Maybe they should've started when the child was younger. That "Old dog new tricks" saying works with kids like adults. My sons birthday is right before Christmas and at 3 years old he already puts his dishes in the sink after dinner. Something I can't get my 12 yr old nephew to do. So, spanking isn't always terrible, but you should never go over their age. Same thing with time outs. But try talking to your kids and really listening to what they're saying. Good Luck...

Answer 3

Spanking works on children, but only while they are young. My children are now 13 and 10 and I haven't spanked either one since they were around 5 or 6. As they get older, other methods take precedence!

The main thing to remember when and if you spank:
* Don't do it it in anger! Send the child off and regain composure.
* Don't do it where other people can see! It should be between the child and you and no one else needs to see! Besides in today's society you never know who will call the authorities
* When the episode and spanking are over, hold your child and explain to them why you had to discipline them. Explain that you are trying to raise them to be nice, polite, and responsible citizens and they need to listen and follow the rules.

I have friends who never spank with their own hand, but I have always used my own hand. I personally was spanked with a belt and decided I would never do that to my children.

Answer 4

I was spanked as a child and I have always respected my mom and still have a very close relationship with her. I had a very bad temper and she knew that was the only thing that would put me in my place. I think you should probably try to reason with them first, becuase some children respond differently to certain types of correction. But when that won't work a smart smack on the bottom will do the trick. Using anything other than your hand on the bottom or back of the hand is a definite no no though.

Answer 5

I have never spanked my girls nor will I , It is a choice I have made. I know my wife has broken a few wooden spoons on their back sides over the years , that is okay with me , she is with them all day and I can see being driven nuts. Personally I think guys should stay out of the whole spanking thing, we are to strong. Sometimes when you are fooling around with your wife in the sack you may spank her a few times also. More the reason for guys to stay away,

Answer 6

I disagree. If your nephew was treated with a little more respect and he knew the rules and what was expected of him then he would NEVER throw stuff off shelves and go crazy while in the store. Then there would be no need for a smack on the hand or anywhere else.

I have spanked my kids but it has been rare and I don't think it works. My kids are 6 & 3 and they never misbehave at the store or anywhere in public. That isn't to say they are perfect. They do act up from time to time, mostly at home. But I tell them what I expect from them. They know before we even leave the house that I will not tolerate them misbehaving at the store. I tell them what I expect from them and what their consequences will be. I have no reason to spank them. When kids have a routine, rules, and know what to expect then they behave. It is as simple as that.

I understand why some people feel the need to spank but I really do not see where it is effective. All the children I know who are spanked on a regular basis are the absolute worst behaved kids. So, if spanking works why do they act like that?

Answer 7

My five year old used to respond to a time out but recently that hasn't worked, so my husband and I, who grew up on spankings, have started to spank my son on the three strikes you are out rule. We even warn him by saying you're going to time out for ________(behavior), if you choose to do it again what comes next? He knows the answer, and places the responsibility of making the right choice on his shoulders. Spanking too much, I believe desensitizes them, plus takes away the effectiveness.

Answer 8

I am I the only one that sees what is happeneing with our Youth.,..They do not have any R>E>S>P>E>C>T!!!!! And it is getting WORSE. I definetly agree that children need more disipline and if spanking works than use it...But know your limits! Make sure the child undersands why they are being spanked.

Answer 9

I don't advocate spanking your children...but you won't hear me railing against it either. All children, all parents, all families and truly all circumstances are different and it's ridiculous to expect one method of child rearing/discipline to work for everyone.

For my own part, I simply can't reconcile hitting someone that I love so dearly...it's that simple. Besides, by the time I'm angry enough to hit, then I'm angry enough to do real physical damage...and that's more than I care to think about.

Answer 10

i couldnt agree more, i have 3 kids all under the age of 5 and my son is how do i say it terror hes the samem way in the stores so i take him to the bathroom and spank him, he now knows to be good in t eh store, now there is a limmmit to spanking and beating i would never leave a mark on my child that wouldnt go away after afew minutes if at all but i do let them know whos boss

single mothers are not very threating to there childen like a father would be