Do you believe that having a divorce can effect your child(ren)?

Answer 1

Any change in their routine will affect them. It's doesn't necessarily mean it will affect them in a negative way, but it will affect them. Some changes more than others. There's no way to tell in advance. some experience relief when the divorce occurs because it stops all the agony of what was going on. For others a change in residence is more negative than a divorce. Depends on the child.

Answer 2

Yes divorce effects children. Both parents need to sit the child/children down and talk to them. Let them know it's not their fault. Most kids feel they did something wrong. You should never talk bad about the other parent. No matter the situation you made a child together and at one point loved each other.
Staying together for a child's sake isn't good either. I think it makes it worse. A child can always tell when something is't right. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I am 21 and my parents just got divorced about 2 years ago, and it has affected my brother, sister and I in many different ways. My sister I think, has taken it the hardest, she is 16 and rebelling, she is making it harder for my parents to be civil with each other, becasue she does really bad things. She plots them against each other, and when they do talk, its never about anything good, only about what to do with my sister. Now she is going to boot camp. She never acted like this before, only after my parents sat us down and said they were getting a divorce. At first I htought the divorce would be good, because then there wouldnt be anymore arguing, but it seems like it only got worse, and then my parents stopped talking all together, so they ended up going through us kids, to relay messages back and forth. I think when a couple decides to get a divorce, they shouldn't use the children to get information about one another, and that even if the kids ask questions about things, you shouldnt tell them, I was always asking questions about there divorce, and it only made me feel worse. I hope this helped you wiht your question.

Answer 4

I can definitly say yes to this as I am a child of divorce. Also, my husband was married previously and has a daughter there.
It's much worse if the parents can't get along either. My DH's ex is very volital and "goes off" about him around the daughter often. The daughter is old enough now to know truth from fiction but when she was young didn't. Still it creates problems as adults later. My sister has commitment issues, I have fear of abandament etc.

Answer 5

Divorce is devastating to children. There are some few cases where divorce might actually be better for children, like spousal abuse, but usually divorce is worse than fighting. My parents fought all the time and I was fine until they got divorced but their divorce gave me my first episode of depression when I was six. It was really hard on my four-year-old brother, too.

Answer 6

It's not a question of belief. It's a pure, honest to goodness fact that divorce affects children. The only question is how much does it affect them. It's much worse when the divorcing couple fight and use the kids to get at each other, one is out of their life etc.

Answer 7

I think it does effect the children alot because they dont want to have to choose they love there parents and when your parents get a divorce sometimes you feel you have to choose. But a bad marriage can effect them just as much.

Answer 8

there is no yes or no answer it depends on the situation your children wont be happy if mommy and daddy are always fighting, and could have a great time with the 2 if there seprate and happy. age has alott to do with also i think, my daughter was 1 when her father and i got divorced and she is fine that how shes always remembered it. you have to do what you need or whant to do your kid my take awhile to adjust but when there older they will understand and always love you

Answer 9

of course divorce can effect your child...life as they know it is over!! there is no more of mom and dad in the same place. but sometimes...that's for the best, even for the kids...if you are in an unhappy place, its more difficult to make sure your child is happy. just make sure you both respect each other especially in front of the child, keep them out of your differences,dont make them choose sides and let them know that your love for them will not change and if they want to know if you still love each other (mom and dad), let them know that you will always share love with the other because you both love them

Answer 10

yes i do think it affects children no matter what age they are.younger ones cant understand why mommy and daddy live in two houses.which usually means they have two,bedrooms,sets of clothes,everyting.but thet do adjust in time.my kids were 5 and 2 months when we seperated,and now threr 9 and 4.