ok so i am agery at my bf and its his bday in two days. i went away over the weekend. i sent him an email before i left. i checked my email today he sent nothing. he didn't come online even though he knew i would be home today. he didn't even send an email says why he wasn't going to be on. this is not like him at all. he normal sends me tons of emails saying how he missed me and love me. i am 15 by the way. he is 16 turning 17. i am agery at him cause he is seppose to show how he cares right. should i yell at him when i see him tommorw or just let it go. i mean i should ask atleast right. i am so new to this reltionship stuff cause this is my frist. i have only been with him two months and he is real improtant to me.
2006-11-26 12:59:44 · 36 answers · asked by punk girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you do anything, take a deep breath.
You must feel overwhelmed since this is your first relationship, it's brand new, and you have huge expectations of how your boyfriend is supposed to act.
High school romances are very fragile and very diffiult to maintain. You didn't mention if he's had prior relationships to the one with you. I would suspect that he has had several. The boy in high school is being bombarded by hormones just like you are.
The most important thing for you to do is to take care of yourself. Two months may seem like a long time to you, but in relationships that is not. Whatever is going on with your boyfriend is HIS stuff. How you react to his behavior is YOURS.
Why would you feel it appropriate to yell at him?? You are powerless over his behavior. The only actions you can control are yours. It's appropriate to bring up, in a calm manner, your surprise that his usual sweet messages weren't left for you. See what he has to say. Keep in mind he may have a reason.
Now, he may have changed his mind about wanting to be your boyfriend. That is a painful thought, I know. Particularly if you've given yourself to him sexually. If so, I hope you used protection.
My thought is to tell you to move slowly through all the actions you take. Don't yell, don't threaten, don't bargain, don't try to do anything to MAKE him act like he did before. You cannot change him. Cry if you break up with him. Eat too much ice cream. Talk to your girlfriends. Whatever it takes to get over a broken heart. Take it from an older woman...we will all get our hearts broken and will break hearts in our lives. And it never seems at the time, like we'll survive. But we always do. And we're stronger, more awesome women than we were before.
Whatever you find out when you talk with him, remember it's his stuff.
Hugs.
2006-11-26 13:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by metaphysical_kitten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, a situation such as you describe is a very emotional time in the life of a young woman. You are learning that relationships are not without conflict, hurt and anger. You barely know your bf after only 2 months so I suggest that you tell him, not in an angry way, how hurt you feel by not having heard from him. Yelling rarely accomplishes anything positive so try open, calm communication. This is a good thing to learn early in life. Good luck!
2006-11-26 13:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok first of all u are only 15!!!! trust me when I say this isn't a huge deal! you want man problems? I have been with my bf for 6 yrs and we have a 4 yr old son and he still hasn't popped the question, we had a verble agreement but still no ring, were arguing as it is and becuse he thinks he has been doing all the supporting. wrong. yeah trust me you can just walk away, its a lil harder when you have a child and there is nothing you can do. think about that and then tell me you have problems!
2006-11-26 13:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should forget your anger and send him an email and tell him how much you care about him. Tell him your feelings and I am sure he will tell you his. The worse thing you can do is not communicate with each other and by the way, get him something for his birthday and send it to him with all your love. Don't let the sun go down on your anger.
2006-11-26 13:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call him! Maybe he was busy with family over the weekend, it was Thanksgiving! Open the conversation by saying you missed him, he should reciprocate, but don't ask if he missed you! Then just ask about his weekend and tell him about yours. If the fact he hasn't emailed you is your only problem, then I would say let it go. Good luck!
2006-11-26 13:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on he probably had something real important to do. Pretend that u r him now maybe he thought u were fed up with all the emails and decided to let u have a break. Ask him before u dump him
2006-11-26 13:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i might say this occasion is extremely sucky. i purely approximately assure you that in case you advised your b/f, he might maximum in all probability get so annoyed at you... even nonetheless you probably did no longer kiss this ryan guy back. i'm no longer gonna say he will harm up with you because of the fact i don't recognize what he's like... yet... i recognize that he will likely be very upset with you for somewhat a while. you will have the prefer to make particular he would not harm ryan. because of the fact somewhat, your b/f could desire to get so mad that he makes a decision to flow to the reason for the subject and purely beat the **** out of him. good success. i'm hoping all is going nicely.
2016-10-17 14:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient! Ask first and just listen, with you heart. Your god-given sixth sense will turn you onto b/s if in fact he only has that to offer. In the meantime, you are young and there will be plenty of men that will woo you and hurt you before you realize what is best for you. Keep that in mind. You are 15 today and need him now, but as you grow mature, so will your standard of happiness.
2006-11-26 13:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by lol 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actions speak louder than words. Love is...actions. If you put up with any action that makes you angry, you will be a slave to that action for the rest of your dating life. If you don't like that a boy isn't responsive after you have been away, then do somethign about it or it will be okay for any boyfriend you have later in life.
I would just like to add that if this is your idea of "big bf problems" you may want to quit dating all together.
2006-11-26 13:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
lol,,,hum maybe it's not all about you. If you think be a slave to the e-mail shows how much he loves you, you are shallow, god forbid he might being doing something with his family, fishing, working on a car, doing laundry, or maybe even cooking and cleaning, getting a hair cut. Oh no what if, what if he was working a job, you should dump him, you want someone as self centered as you are.
2006-11-26 13:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by brp_13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋