ive loved him for 6 yrs now, we've been together on and off since i was 15 now im 21 with his child and i havnt seen him for ages he hasnt even seen what his son looks like.I dont want to love him but i do. Im so scared im a single mum and i dont go anywhere to meet new people tofind a new man i feel like im going to be on my own for the rest of my life. I cant go anywhere to meet anyone as i have a 5month old baby and shopping and going to see friends is all i do so how will i ever find somebody new. Im so depressted feel so alone
2006-11-26 12:51:13 · 14 answers · asked by hayleyxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl you are not the only one...I am divorced with 2 kids and life does go on...many people have kids so it will be alright...try it you never know what is going to happen_
2006-11-26 12:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hayleyxx hate to be the one to break the news here,, but the millisecond you became mom, your personal wants and desires pretty much takes back-seat to your child’s needs. Far as loving the “ex-boyfriend” you’re wasting your time and your life! Second realization is You DON’T NEED a man to raise your child. Yes it would be better no doubt, but not absolutely necessary for your Own growth and development as a woman. Your child needs you 24-7 right now an for several years your child’s needs are more important. That doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t look for a good man, it just means first is Child, second is you, third is Man. You may very well in the future find a great guy who accepts you and your child. Do wish you best of luck!!
2006-11-26 21:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,
You need a life outside of your baby so your baby will have a happy mommy. You are only 21 and sound so bogged down. It's time to get positive and focus on the positive. No time for pouting. You have a son to raise and in order to avoid creating another useless man on this earth, you need to show him you are a strong, capable woman. Love yourself so when he is out in the world learning how to love a woman he can think back on how much his mother was loved.
He needs you to be together not pining after a man that doesn't want you.
Be safe and happy!
feather
2006-11-26 20:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by featherives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great way to get over your ex is to focus your attention and energy on your new baby. It's going to be a tough ride for you, but the two most important people in your life now are you and the baby. You are not alone. You are surrounded by friends. You'd be surprised to find that strength comes when you least expect it. Your baby needs you to pull through and be strong. Good Luck.
2006-11-26 20:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Po5lly (the 5 is silent) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to meet a guy, you must be open to meet one. You are mourning, but you need to go get some counseling. It is ok to reach out for professional help and dont wait to do it!! Ive been in counseling myself and that little meeting per week has really made a big difference in myself.
You also should consider possibly going on medication temporarily to lift your mood while you go to counseling. you need to get out and see the world, you need to understand your ex will not come back, but that doesnt mean your life is over. You are now living a new life. Do this for your child, who depends on your light and love to show him the way. He will mimic everything you do, including how depressed you are. Show him that you can overcome anything and he will believe he can to.
2006-11-26 20:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I was 18 I had a baby and all I could think of is this it is this going Tobe my life .I was so depressed I couldn't stand it.It took everything I had to hang on.I'm so glad I did because I met a good man at age. 25 and we are still together after 28 years of marriage
2006-11-26 21:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must find a way to let him go in order to move on. You must take care of yourself and your baby and not depend upon him. Meeting new people and having friends whether or not you are in a relationship is very important. You are alone because you have isolated yourself.
Find a support group, check out craigslist.org in your area. Be kind to yourself.
2006-11-26 20:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mom with three kids and never went anywhere to meet anyone. You know how I did it? Online dating. And yes, you get bad ones and good ones-you gotta keep going until you find a good one that is real and hey--enjoy the free dinners until you find him--I did!
2006-11-26 20:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound like a cliche, but it works...
Give it time. Focus on yourself and your child.if you live in toronto, call 211--there are many resources that you can access. There are 'single mom' groups available. In Toronto, there is a place called Rosalie Hall, they cater to young mothers . When the time is right, and you are in the right place, you will meet someone.
2006-11-26 21:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dont let this get you down if he is low enough to leave you like that then why should you love him he aint worth it if he just has a kid and doesnt even show up to see him and never has i you know what you should do drop your kid off at your friends house or a daycare if you got them money and go to a club or somewere were you know there will be alot of single guys and just talk to people get to know people dont be shy dont be scared of what other people will think they will never see you again anyway (well hopefully not anyway)
2006-11-26 21:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by you dont know me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋