Any suggestions? I'm a single mom and my kids think if I make them clean that they shouldn't have to do it again for another 3 days or so. It's frustrating b.c I don't have time to do all of the cleaning.
2006-11-26 12:33:39 · 25 answers · asked by Kristy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ROFL damn ...sounds like how me and my brothers and sister were to my mother...um she used to try and take stuff away from us when we didn't do our chores...though that would usually end up in fighting and crying...my parents never spanked us perhaps they should have maybe that would have got us off our lazy butts...but they soon figured out that bribing us worked...bribe them with money or renting a movie or something you can do together or a toy i wouldn't recommend candy but I'm sure that would work ....or try like a chore chart where they get stickers for getting their work done and whoever did their chores would get something at the end of the week lol good luck to you
2006-11-26 12:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by @ubreY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make responsibility charts. They probably don't want to clean all the time because it takes forever when they do. They need little responsibilities every day and they need to pick up after themselves. Have them check off all their responsibilities (don't call them chores) before they do fun things like go outside, watch TV, or whatever they like to do. You have to get on them for awhile but they will realize you are serious and start doing it if you keep expecting it. Also it will be better if the chart can be the "bad guy" instead of you. They may feel they are subject to your whims about what needs to be cleaned (and believe me, as a mom I understand those "whims" too like when the place looks like a disaster) but if they see it on paper then they won't blame you too much. Make a list of what needs to be done every day and every week and all work together to divide it. Everyone can have their responsibilities or you can rotate. Just have some fun putting charts together and maybe even with stars or something and if they do it for so many days they get a reward.
2006-11-26 21:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's possible to get kids to clean without asking! Kids are different than adults, they don't see the need to clean. A dirty and cluttered house doesn't bother them the way it does us, so they see no need to use up their time cleaning. They don't put their hard earned money towards the place, so why would they even think twice about it's condition?
I think it's about starting them early and showing that with certain responsibilities come rewards. It's hard to resist nagging, but it really is a hinderance when you're tying to get the kids to clean up. Try going about it in a cheery way, don't make it into a big chore. Try and show them that it's something that everyone must do and that it can be fun, and afterwards you get to do something fun!! Good luck!!
2006-11-26 22:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lemon_zinger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them something nice for a reward ... and compliment them... tell them how nice it looks and how well they have done.... and maybe you can buy them things like flowering plants for their rooms ...
(you did not say how old they are) and make sure you do not scold them... they are just children and sometimes children are growing so fast that their energies are taken up with that, and sometimes they simply do not have the strength yet.. also, do you have any fun things to clean with, like solutions that smell good or are new designs ... something to take the "hard work" out of it for all of you? Best of luck and Happy Holidays!
2006-11-26 20:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a reward system ---(not allowence) for every thing they do such as clean their room 10 points,the dishes 10 points and if they get to say 100 points a treat depending on the age of the child.
2006-11-26 20:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by preciousbabe1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this problem also...i dont believe chores should be rewarded with anything, so i ended up guilting them by making chore lists that said "thank you for helping our family, i love you" at the bottom. that helped for about a week. now i use frustration (on their part), by doing it myself "black hole" style. if it is on the floor and doesnt belong there, its garbage. hated doing it the first few times (my kids were sad, what a waste of money!) but theres not too much lying around anymore,thats for sure!! once they see that human tornado with the trash bag coming, it only takes a time or two to have their little hineys scrambling to pick up their messes.
2006-11-26 22:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by danais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!!!!
I love cleaning make it fun for them tell them that if they do the cleaning they will get a special reward but just don't tell them what the reward is until the cleaning is done
2006-11-26 21:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it fun turn on the music get out the paper towels give them the broom tell them when there all done youll make cookies and they can help. get it to be like a routine and a fun time that way they will want to clean worked for us lol
2006-11-26 20:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by starglowshady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk in the room,and yell LET'S GET THIS HOUSE CLEAN! and then fire a shotgun above their little heads. They'll learn real quick to start cleaning when they see the shotgun coming
2006-11-26 20:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Carl The Green's Keeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the time they start going through puberty, they'll WANT to clean themselves.
Right now, you could tell them what happens if you dont clean and tell them all kind of nasty stories about dirty people orrr you can bribe them.
2006-11-26 20:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by J13891 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋