How do you go on when you lose a special pet?

Answer 1

I lost my baby almost 2 years ago. He was very special to me, he saved my life, he taught me how to love and live again, he taught me that I can start and follow though this things and be really good at something. With his help I was able to finally escape a really bad long relationship. When I moved (far away) he was the only 'friend' I had....his love and happiness further saved me.

I found a new life, one different than I had in the past. I has happy and safe with my little buddy by my side. I took him to the vet, annual he was fine. Three weeks later there was something really wrong, the vet turned the ultrasound off after finding 14 tumors. The news was real bad. My baby passed in my arms. It took me two days to realized he passed on my ex's birthday....salt in the wound?

I stayed in bed and cried for a week. I always looked at him as angel that saved my life, he knew I has happy, safe, and loved, his job on earth with me was over...so God took him back home so he could go to some one else who needed him as much as I did. Corny I know, but it helped me.

I loved him so much, he taught me so much. I still cry at times. I am thankful he was in my life and for everything he put into my life. You do go on, be thankful for the time he spent with you, he was put into your life for a reason.

Answer 2

It's very difficult. Most pets are also truly our best friends, and grief is natural. I don't appreciate people telling you to get another pet right away. You don't replace friends that easily.

In time, yes, it's a wonderful tribute to adopt another animal in your pet's memory, but there's no need to rush. You can't replace that special pet, and it's cruel to expect another animal to live up to what you had over the years.

I run a shelter for older unwanted dogs, and we have favorites, and it's always difficult when the time comes to do the right thing for the animal. My own 14 year old dog was put down in September, and I still miss her very much. She was with me through some very dark days, when no one else was.

But you know with their generous spirit, they would not want you to grieve for them or for you to be unhappy. Some believe that the animal can't go on until you really let go, and we never want that for a beloved pet, especially those who were ill and in pain at the end.

I hope you find some peace, but give yourself time to grieve. It's natural, even if it hurts. I think it hurts proportionally to how much you loved them, and sometimes that's an awful lot.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

I have had many pets in my lifetime
and, there is no one that has loved their babies anymore than me
one after another in my life they have filled my life with laughter and joy and at times gave me considerable grief !! I have had three however that were the standout specials of all specials though---and in loosing them--I felt that my heart had literally been cut out ---it took a long long time for things to settle after loosing each of those three-- the last of the three was a little over a year ago---I still grieve privately over all three at times when I'm especially pensive over some thing going on in my life--- and I don't think you ever really get over it--- but-- you can learn to cope and move on---because we must---I have always opted to get right back in the game with a new pet---not a replacement by any means-- that just doesn't happen---but a brand new relationship and a brand new life---it always helps---and it always brings me new love and new experiences with a brand new personality-- for each of them is truly a unique little spirit !!!!

I grieve with you on this day---I'm truly sorry ---and I know it will be better soon--but--best to remember the absolute best times--because after all---wasn't that what they were all about ???

Answer 4

It is extremely difficult to go on, but you have to do it to honor your pet. Think of all the happy times you had together. Write a poem or two about your pet. When you are ready, go to your local shelter and get another pet to love and take care of the way you did before. Your beloved pet will be happy if you help another animal in need of love.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My little Mikey Poo means everything to me and I can't bear to think of ever losing him. I have lost a dog before and the grief you feel becomes tucked away in your heart. You will never forget your precious animal and I truly believe you will see your pet again.

Answer 5

Get out of the house and do your best to get into the spirit of the holidays Stay busy and if you find yourself sad again make a happy scrapbook of the good times.Remember that it is no longer suffering and you would not want him back to suffer.Pack up his little things soon and save them for possibility of another pet someday you do not need to look at them everyday.This is a special season and he was a special baby and he would not want you to be sad.Always remember God never puts on us more than we can bare.He is good and he does not make mistakes.Best wishes for peace of mind and Happy Holidays

Answer 6

Unfortunately there is no easier way to deal with it. Everybody deals with it differently. It's taken me almost two years to come to terms with the loss of our heart dog Benson. It still hurts to know that he is no longer with us. But some things I have done to help me are:

1. I volunteer for a rottweiler rescue, help other rotties find homes and help educate people about the breed and responsible dog ownership.

2. I have a painting of Benson that reminds me of his life with us.

3. If you had your dog cremated you can buy a little urn that goes around your neck, they have beautiful charms you can put ashes into so that you can keep your dog close to you for ever.

4. Talk to other people about their losses and how they coped with it

I don't think you should jump and get a dog right away. Sometimes it can be a bad thing. Unless you think you can handle it(sometimes we can't).

5. Start a memorial online, our rescue does it I'm sure many others do too.

Visit: www.rainbowsbridge.com

It is a terrific website. Many believe in the rainbow bridge, a place where our pets go to wait for us. A place where they no longer have any illnesses, no worries, where they can run around all day, chasing balls, eating grass...

It is a great way to remember them.

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...
http://rainbowsbridge.com/Poem.htm

Hope this helps you, I'm sorry for your loss, make sure you never forget your memories.

Answer 7

what i do is i tend to go to a pet store and look at anything that catches your eye, any pet, no matter what it is, and i will think about getting it. Ifit sounds like the right pet for you, go for it. Its better than moping around doing nothing all day. I know its hard advice to deal with, but you have got to get over it! Move along, and get other things done.

Answer 8

It is very difficult to just simply let go. Time will heal the pain, and the memories will help keep your love for your pet strong. One thing that helps is writing down some memories of your pet, so you never forget the little things.

Answer 9

Sometimes it helps to go to a place where you can grieve together with others. Here is one of many such places:
http://www.in-memory-of-pets.com/tributescatalog.php

Another thing you may want to do is journal about your loss and write a poem dedicated to the pet you lost.

You will have your memories forever. I lost my German Shepherd Dog in Dec of 2001. It broke my heart and I got pretty depressed but pulled out of it. Some things that helped me was talking about her to others, doing the things I just suggested.

You don't have to be good with words even. Just write from your heart. Doesn't even have to rhyme.
When you need to cry, cry as long as you need to. I wish I could take your pain away but I know that I can't. Just let me assure you that with time it will get better and that space that is hurting will be filled with warm memories.

Answer 10

Its so hard. I cried for 6 months when i lost my beloved cat. He was my bud. After that i got another one, he hasnt replaced the other one but just brought new life in the house. I still think about my kitty but i dont cry anymore. Its been 2 years. http://www.in-memory-of-pets.com/ This is a site where you can leave a tribute to your pet.