this guy at works been crushing on me. comes to my desk to talk to me all the time, and i've always been friendly with him, borderline flirtatious. dont know why i flirt - i'm not interested in him, and i'm sorta seeing someone right now.
he's asked me out to go have some drinks, i said no twice, but hes still calling...
how do i make it stop without it being akward?
2006-11-26 12:13:07 · 16 answers · asked by nanabe 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Explain to him that you're flattered, but you don't date your coworkers. If it doesn't work out, it could be rough...and if it does it could be even worse....
2006-11-26 12:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always feels good to get attention and there's nothing wrong with a little playfull banter as long as that's all it is. I would watch that a little closer to make sure I wasn't leading him on. That wouldn't be fair.
If you said no and he keeps calling, then perhaps talking about what a great weekend you just had with this new guy you've been seeing is in order. If he doesn't catch on after that, he's a complete selfless idiot! Keep the number to Human Resources handy.
2006-11-26 12:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him the truth is the best way to let him know what is going on with you and that you like him as a friend but not interested in him personally.
2006-11-26 12:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Cecilia ♡ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not better answer than a forward and honest answer. Let him know clearly that you are not interested in him and that you would very much aprecciate the he stop insisting.That you can be friends but any effort from him to push the dating thing can very well throw that out the window to. BE HONEST...
2006-11-26 12:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by lisa r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him that you are seeing someone? If you havent, now is the time. If hes persistent anyway then you can either give in and see waht hes about, or let him know firmly that you just arent interested in him and that another man has caught your eye.
2006-11-26 12:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that u are seeing someone else. That would help alot and it wont be so weird for u and him when u see him at work. Dont lie to him just tell him the situation.
2006-11-26 12:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by good4u06@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Tell him that you just see him as a friend and you just don't feel the same. Tell him he is a nice guy and bring his self-esteem up and say that there will be someone else who likes him for who he is. (Kinda even out the "rejection.") You just don't feel the same way.
2006-11-26 12:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him no an to stop bothering you if he does not call the police an they can have a talk with him about stalking laws
2006-11-26 12:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by bigdogrex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have recently become involved with another, and do not flirt at the office. If he does not stop, it's sexual harrassment, but remember, if you participate, he could be the one bringing you up on charges.
2006-11-26 12:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by bpember744@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep saying no and avoiding his calls. Eventually he'll get the hint. It may be annoying for awhile but at least you won't have to have any awkward conversation.
2006-11-26 12:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you don't feel that way about him, and you just want to be friends. If he keeps stalking you like that, then talk to someone with authority.
2006-11-26 12:16:57 · answer #11 · answered by Ariella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋