Ok, I'm deeply depressed over something that is my own fault. I dated this guy for like the whole summer. I even lived with him. And then when it was time for me to come back to my house I didn't get to see him hardley any so I felt as if he was drifting away from me. So this guy kept calling me asking me if I'd date him and I kept telling him no but he wouldn't accept that. So I thought maybe it would be better than the guy i'm with. So I broke up with him to date the other guy. Found out that was wrong and beg for the first guy to come back to me. (Me and the 2nd guy only dated 5 days) then i found another guy and he was where i lived so i started dating him then to find out he was just mean and wanted one thing. So I called the first guy that i had only been in love with for 4yrs. and now he wont take me back and its not b/c of what i did its b/c he said he KIND of likes someone else. So i saw him again for a whole weekend and he text me but nothing has happend wat should I do?
2006-11-26 12:12:25 · 14 answers · asked by Shaynee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with the flow.
Thats really the only thing you can rationally do.
2006-11-26 12:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by mikey_guinto 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the first thing I can say is SLOW down....I feel like you are jumping into things before really taking the time to think about the outcomes. And also, I feel like maybe the 1st guy only said he kinda likes someone else because he is feeling hurt and this is his way of lashing back at you. I would just give it a little time and prove to him that he is the one you want. Within some time if he doesn't come around, he probably isn't worth your time. Life is too short to wait around for someone who keeps putting you on hold.
2006-11-26 20:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by iwannabeanofficer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him another text message or better yet call him. Explain to him that you have made some bad choices but you would like the chance to start over. If he is the right one for you everything will work out. Just don't give up. He may be trying to play a little hard to get to pay you back. Good Luck!
2006-11-26 20:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made it sound as if you were shopping for a product...Why would you spend all this time with someone and then, b/c you thought you had found a better choice, dump one to go with another?
My best guess is...If the first guy did "take" you back...wouldn't it always be in the back of his mind "is she going to dump me again?"
A relationship is about building a solid foundation and going from there.
2006-11-26 20:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by johnnyquest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously hate to tell people this...well, only the people that are on my good side....anyway, you kinda brought it upon yourself. Don't get upset over that one comment, though. It's good that people can learn from their mistakes....even yours. Don't get down on your knees and grovel and beg for the guy to take you back. The most it would probably do is make the guy think that he has some kind of power over you. Talk to him regularly and try to gain his trust. If you get lucky, he will be the one wanting you back and not the other way around.
2006-11-26 20:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by lady_ellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should see a doctor for anti-depressants,and try to get over it. Some things aren't meant for the moment,sometimes years pass before people realize what they lost in the first time.
2006-11-26 20:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him. tell him how you feel. Tell him you know you messed up and you'd be willing to do anything to have him back. tell him you just lost sight of how good a person he was. tell him you thought you guys were drifting apart, but you were really just scared of losing him and thats what ended up happening and that you miss him very much.
2006-11-26 20:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Adrian R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go of him. Things change, people change... feelings change. You left him and he moved on. It probably wasn't meant to be then. Just look for someone in your own area.
2006-11-26 20:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by jennytkd13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait a while be single go out with your girl-friends and have fun and if he doesnt like you then just forget about him.. if ur not ment to be there is some one waiting out there for you .... it may seem impossible to c that now but there is dont worry ..
meggie
2006-11-26 20:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Megan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit dating other guys. All he sees is you're afraid to be alone, not that you want ot be with HIM.
2006-11-26 20:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋