Me and my bf are in a long distance relationship right now. We only talk to each other once a week online. I really want to marry him so we have kept this long distance thing for 8 months already.
And now....I met another guy. I only went out with him once for coffee. We both like each other, He is sweet and nice, so I wanted to have a no string attached relationship with this new guy and next year when I go back to the States I can keep hanging out with my bf.
Does this count as cheating?
2006-11-26 12:12:11 · 18 answers · asked by anne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
being "with" someone doesn't mean that you're not attracted to anyone else...nor do you not talk to anyone of the opposite sex...
it means that you are responsible enough and you care enough about this person not to be "with" anyone else...
i would have to ask my "significant other" if it was o.k. to see other people...
hang out with the guy...have coffee...hell i consider kissing someone else cheating...hanging out with a friend is fine...but don't let it go so far as being "with" someone...
you need to save something special for your man...something that only you two do together...sex, kissing, fondling should all be some of those things...
i used to give my wife baths followed by deep tissue massages...just remember that he should be different from anyone else in some ways...
2006-11-26 12:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ed O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The subjective answer is that if you are having to wonder if it is cheating, then it likely is in your mind.
Technically,
I would think that it is okay to sometimes go for coffee with a member of the opposite sex without it being "cheating."
However, you mention wanting to have a "no strings" attached relationship with the new guy. That, in my opinion, counts as cheating.
You don't say the exact type of relationship (i.e. sexual??) but that would count as you would be hiding it from your boyfriend and at a minimum it is emotional intimacy best reserved for your one significant other you are serious about.
The honest thing to do is to say to your boyfriend that you want to see other people as you are not sure of your feelings.
That way, your boyfriend knows the situation and where he stands.
Plus, there are always strings to a relationship in some way and it is not fair to the other, new guy either.
2006-11-26 20:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by KAR36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all 8 months and once a week on line I went through that is that the norm. You would think with email, instant messenger, cell phones, web cams more time for communication. Cheating is any exchange of emotions and I think you did that. Do you know what he's doing with his free time. Don't cheat yourself and expect to marry him, explore your options.
2006-11-26 20:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by zizi4me22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not cheating. Talking with people and making friends is totally fine, but be careful how close you get to this new man and be wary of what your boyfriends feelings on the matter are
I urge you to be careful about this for another reason as well. If you are intent on marrying your boyfriend, I wouldn't put anything in the way of that.
2006-11-26 20:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by tdavis179@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if the guy is not your boyfreind and is only your freind. If you are in love with him, then it's wrong to see him without first breaking up with your boyfreinds. But if you're just freinds and don't feel strongly about each other in a bf/gf way then it's fine. Make sure he knows you have a boyfreind and that nothing is going to happen between him and you.
2006-11-26 20:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is if you haven't settled for an open relationship. Talk to your boyfriend first, find out where you are in the relationship. Also, if it is open, mention to the new guy that you are seeing someone on the side. Be honest, or else it will bite you in the *ss....Good luck!
2006-11-26 20:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Megan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to do is discuss this with bf. .If he's happy with the stuation then it's ok.Pretty difficult to have a long range relationship and never cross a line.He too will have this problem.
2006-11-26 20:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's cheating.
2006-11-26 20:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does and if you cheat now you gonna do it after you are married so do you want to ruin some persons life?
2006-11-26 20:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by roy40372 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's NOT cheating as long as you and your boyfriend are NOT engaged to be married.
HANK
2006-11-26 20:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by Josh Logan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋