To court a woman, to enjoy a courtship, to pursue a woman, to let a woman know your intentions when in the early stages of dating . . . I'm going to begin to filter those words back in to the 'dating' scene. How many of you are weary of players, and schemers and ill motated men / women out there who fog you over with the thought that they have personal interest in you when all that's wanted is sex, fun and nothing more. If that's all that's wanted...then fine...then state that up front so choice can be made if you want to date them or not. Or is it not revealed because then you may not have a date if you're a player only looking for fun and sex. I'm starting it here...bringing back the expected environment of courting, courtship, pursuing a woman with honorable intentions. Agree or think I'm off sorts ? No matter...I'm doing it anyway.
2006-11-26 11:59:04 · 6 answers · asked by onelight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes please! The sooner the better I say! So many times I ask myself how much hurt could be avoided if men/women were honest and up front with their intent?
2006-11-26 12:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-11-26 20:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you 100%.could not have stated it better.I am still traditional.I still believe in being pursued I also believe in a man letting me his true intentions so that I neither waste his time or mine .I am not growing any younger and dating for fun and sex has never and will never appeal to me me anytime soon
"....bringing back the expected environment of courting, courtship, pursuing a woman with honorable intentions"100% agree
2006-11-26 20:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a really tough market out there. Most don't know what they want.
http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-pOypG0szd7Pv_X1rQxw_4qCWpA--?cq=1
2006-11-26 20:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck to you!
2006-11-26 20:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i so agree with you.. you r so on honey!!
2006-11-26 20:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by sammi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋