She does this and it hurts because i have never cheated and never will, thats because of how i was raised, she has cheated on me in the past but that is all done and over with so why is she doing this???
2006-11-26 11:44:54 · 27 answers · asked by Fireman69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She accuses you of cheating cause she is cheating and knows how easy it is
2006-11-26 11:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by The Progressive Democrat Liberal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person that accuses another of cheating usually has cheated and you confirmed that this is the case with you.
It's something that she has done and she assumes that you will or have done it too. It's not about you, it's about her. You may find her to be jealous and controlling. It's sad, but this behavior doesn't go away on its own. She is doing real damage to a fragile relationship.
You cannot change her, you cannot reassure her enough. Are you willing to continue to accept these false accusations? How close can you be to someone where ther isn't trust? And how can you trust someone that has cheated in the past and now doesn't trust you?
Only you can answer these questions, it's your life and your choice.
2006-11-26 11:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is the **** man you picked a woman with toooo much baggage... She likely has been cheated on many times in the past, and just assumes we are all alike.. To be honest,, ill call a spade a spade... Most men would cheat if they thought they could get away with it.
I don't cheat but I have a ton of friends that do, and they don't even bat an eye first. None of their women know.. and most are very attractive women.. I can't understand why women are attracted to men like that but they are.I think it has allot to do with the shallow way we choose a mate. 90 percent based on looks or body..
I would never ever be with a drop dead gorgeous woman because she will eventually cheat, almost guaranteed. If almost every man she has any contact with is hitting on her,, it will eventually happen. Women we term as hot, are nice to look at, but never good relationship material..If you want to be happy choose someone with a few flaws.. They usually don't have their heads in the clouds..
2006-11-26 12:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Shawn S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is one insecure lady. There are many men and women who accuse their partner of cheating and it only has to do with their own lack of self esteem. She really needs to start trusting you or she will lose you. No-one, I dont care how much they love someone will get sick of being accused of something they are not doing. You will get sick of it. If you dont want to lose her, you really have to make it plain that you are not cheating and that if she accuses you one more time then you are leaving. Maybe suggest she has the problem....dont take it on your shoulders, make her accept this problem as hers because it sure as hell is not yours....You are not cheating therefore you dont have to explain yourself to her each and every time. Every time she accuses you, just walk away and tell her this is getting ridiculous. If you are consistent and if she loves you, she will stop accusing you falsely. Dont accept it, walk away, do not get into it with her. Tell her that this is what you are going to do every time she mentions it. You just have to tell her straight. It is wrong what she is doing and you shouldnt have to put up with it. She is the one with the problem, not you. If you start thinking this way, then you wont accept the guilt she is trying to lay on you. She will get the message sooner or later, but she will never get the message if you continue to play her game. It is a way for her control you, make no mistakes about that. It would have to be making your relationship with her stressful. You would be watching everything you said in case she took it the wrong way. You cant live like that forever. Tell her straight, its the only way.
2006-11-26 11:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who have cheated in the past accuse there bf of cheating BC they are afraid that they may go out and do the same thing to get even...
2006-11-26 11:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by Teapot23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spend more money on her and tell her you love her. Bake her some cookies and make a pot of tea. I like to put my father's brandy in it, though he complains it is $80 a bottle. All guys cheat. Well, they keep leaving me for fat, short chicks with bad attitudes. They say they can't afford me, whatever that means. They are the ones who take an eight dollar an hour job and expect both of us to thrive on it. Why can't he get a $30 an hour job and be a baller?
You sound insecure. Maybe you should talk to your girlfriend. If you marry her, maybe she will believe you.
2006-11-26 11:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds insecure. All you can do is can do is continue to be the hard working man you are.Someone should suggest she has some issues with herself that she needs to resolve. Whether or not she is talking to other guys Im not sure but she is for sure insecure. Im surprised you are still in a relationship w/ no trust b/c trust is just as important as love. Best Of Luck To You!
2016-05-23 06:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because she has cheated before she the signs or whatever if someone is cheating and you're probably doing those signs or whatever and she wants to know if you are or not.
2006-11-26 11:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Q&A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is insecure. This could be because she has cheated before and thinks that maybe you are planning revenge... Nothing is Really over in relation ships...
You could e-mail me back black_eyedpeas@msn.com if this didnt help much...
Hope you and your gf get well....
Dena
2006-11-26 11:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by fergie fab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's doing this cause she wants you to know that she loves you and would be hurt/jealous if you were cheating.
2006-11-26 11:46:35 · answer #10 · answered by <CHRISSY> 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋