My 25 year old daughter has decided basically that she's not ready to be a mom and has no patience with this child. The baby has been living in my home full time as of about 2 months ago. I have nothing in writing that allows me any rights. I have to tread on thin ice whereas my daughter is concerned. While she wants income tax on the child and wants COMPLETE custody and say so over said child, she has NO desire to care for her. As a matter of fact, she visits maybe twice a week for 10-30 minutes and sometimes takes the baby once a week for up to 10-12 hours to give me a break. (Her words) I am listed on paperwork with the childs pediatrition but my concern is that she has NO birth certificate yet and will lose her medical benefits if I don't obtain one. My daughter is dragging her feet on doing this. Hard to get her to cooperate with anything involving paperwork. I need something in writing that gives me some sort of rights so I can get necessary paperwork and such for this baby.
2006-11-26 11:39:24 · 10 answers · asked by oklahoma_whistle_britches 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well i just went through that with my 10 year old grandson..i went to the circuit clerks office at the court house and picked up custody papers ... i filed them it costed me 125.00 dollars....went to court and the judge gave me custody.....that will give you as much right as the mother has.. reallly you become the mother...the mother will have no more rights...i have also started child support proceedings...i only had my grandson 1 moth when i filed for custody...if you going to keep the baby you need to have custody..oh by the way you dont need a lawyer if you do it this way...it saves you lawyer fees...
2006-11-26 14:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by purple 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you want a power of attorney. That would give you complete control over your daughter's entire life, and she would have to sign it over or you would have to go to court to get it. If I read you correctly, you are just wanting paperwork to legally let you make the right decisions on your grand daughter. She DOES have a birth certificate on file in OKC; your daughter just hasn't sent the $10 to get an official copy. (The reason that I know this is my daughter moved with her family to KY and took my 1 year old grand daughter from OK to there. It just "dawned" on her that my now-2-year old grand daughter didn't have a copy of HER birth certificate for KY shots. She sent the money and got a copy. Anyone can get a copy of a birth certificate by going to OK's website and downloading the form to fill out for a copy and sending the money. It asks a couple of questions (How/if you are related and why you want it, I think are the only 2).
But, I'd check with an attorney. Oklahoma has Legal Aid which offers income-based charges for legal services. You can ask them what you need to do and in what order. I admire you for letting her claim the child on her taxes, but if you are raising the child--you should be the one getting THAT benefit, at least.
Good luck, and God bless grandparents who step up when the "kids" don't.
2006-11-26 12:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by TheOldOkie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your local hot line and ask for a referral to either FOCUS (nonprofit paralegal group that deals with family issues) or GROW (self help group of grandparents raising our own). You may have to seek out an attorney that specializes in family matters and petition the courts for custody. Also get a order of child support issued against the "father" of this child. I would suggest you look into a support group for yourself, possibly Tough Love. Good luck, not easy but there is a lot of help out there....
2006-11-26 11:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to an attorney on this. Also, possibly ,family services. If you are raising this child and feeding and caring and loving and giving him/her a home--then you should have custody. Tell her you need the necessary information for this child in case there is an emergency and it is required.
2006-11-26 11:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is get legal custody of your grandchild. Get an attorney and see what can be done. This is not an adoption, but gives you the authority to get medical attention, register for school, etc. My brother did this for two of his grandchildren while their Mom had problems. When the problems were resolved, the legal custody was reversed. Good luck.
2006-11-26 11:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your granddaughter advantageous to her brother? If she is and there is sufficient space in the crib i in my view do no longer think of this is a huge deal except theres purely no longer sufficient space in there for the two one in all them. My daughter has consistently climbed into the crib of the youngster i babysit and shes 5 months previous yet I tell her as long as she sits down and to makes particular she would not harm her shes nice. I purely warned her that if she ever did accidently harm her it is going to be the final time. maybe your granddaughter purely needs to be on the factor of her brother. You by no ability recognize at that age. purely make particular somebody is often around watching. My daughter likes to place down and delivers her hugs and cuddles together with her. Payton the little female loves it. as long as no person is getting harm. in the event that they're i might do the day holiday for 2 minutes then get right down to her eye point and clarify to her that she is hurting him and have her make an apology to you and her brother. many times they are going to supply up after a pair of circumstances like that! good success to you and God Bless!
2016-10-17 14:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandma, don't move so fast. It was nice that your daughter thought to give the baby to you as she hopefully is getting herself together. Don't allow this to break your relationship with your daughter and don't ever think that this baby is yours no matter how long you take care of her. Always remember that this child is your grand-child that you are "helping" to raise.
When you feel this way, it will be easy for you to ask your daughter for the necessary paperwork to help support you in making decisions for your "grand-child." When asking for this paper work which I don't think you need right now, always let her know that she is the mother and that you are not looking to take her child from her.
You are a gift to your daughter, don't allow this to turn ugly.
God bless.
2006-11-26 11:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
take this battle to the court to let the judge know what is going on with your daughter and let him know that you are very much so concerned about the well being of the child. let you daughter know that if it has to get that far you still love her but you are no willing to put a child's life at risk so that your daughter can live her life freely
put you foot down on this on you need to nip this in the bud and quick
good luck
2006-11-26 12:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by cool cat2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consult an attorney...quickly
2006-11-26 11:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by lilygateau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call a lawyer, get proof that you take care of the child
2006-11-26 11:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋