i have a boyfriend who used to be the sweetest man i knew, but after i moved in, that changed almost instantly. when i moved in, i had a curfew (im not a kid, im 23!), i can only talk to girls, and can only stay on the phone until 9 pm. he tells me he loves me,and then he kisses me and then he thins it's all better.he thretins to beat me up, and he hasnt, but im sooo scared! i dont know what to do... im scared. he tells me im ugly, hes' the best i can get, im nothing, im fat, and then has the nerv to tell me he loves me. pleez, i dont know what to do! he is verbaly abusive, he lets his friends disrespect me, (only verbaly)he only allows me to talk from 7 am to 3 pm. then i cant talk to him. im quiet, shy and timid, and i cant leve because he said he would kill himself. pleez, what do i do!
2006-11-26 11:27:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you serious? Break Up with him!!!!
2006-11-26 11:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by arabontheloose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-11-26 11:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Loser. you may desire to bypass away there ASAP! before everything, he's your boyfriend precise? not your father! you at the instant are not anyones property and him threatening to triumph over you is an indication that it will ensue in some unspecified time interior the destiny in time. He tells you your gruesome, yet then that he's the final you will get? of course he's insecure and would not think of he's a lot of a guy himself if he's the final that an "gruesome" woman can get...haha he's putting himself down precise there. I say that in case you experience caught, or afraid that he will do something to you, or himself which you may the two try shifting out mutually as hes long previous, or call the law enforcement officers if it gets undesirable adequate. i'm extraordinarily sorry to pay attention it somewhat is occurring to you, do not EVER take care of a guy like that! you're nicely worth greater!
2016-10-13 04:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by balick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get out of this situation and get help. Find a friend that you trust and move in with them, or you could crash at your parents for a little while. You just need to get out and away from him. After you leave he may realize what he has done. You deserve so much better. You should never put up with abuse, or any guy that treats you like that. And it may take time, but you will find someone out their that does care for you and will treat you like his princess.
2006-11-26 11:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by C-Unit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a freaking looser and a power freak. Get out now and find a real man.
2006-11-26 11:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by Dusty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋