I just came out of a relationship after I found out that my boyfriend were not true to me. I tried so hard to keep him happy. But it seems to never be enough. When I found out that he were sleeping around. That hurted me so bad. I could not undestand that. I did so much for this man. I felt used. When he did not have a job. I gave him money to go look for a job. Took money off my credit card to look out for this man. When he finally landed a job. He changed. Oh he changed. Became a different person. Constuction jobs don't last. They never do. its like he said k--- his a-- now I don't need you. so anyway he started spending buying women this and what ever. I don't bad luck on any body but in time he will pay for that. And i am waiting for the day to come when he rolls in the gutter. Thats wrong. for a man to treat a woman that way. especially when she looked out for him. two months ago..all he had in his pockets were lint. People forget. who were there.
2006-11-26 11:26:49 · 11 answers · asked by Diamond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You seem to have picked a needy person that you could help or fix. You did a lot for him and expected that in return he would treat you better, be faithful and appreciative.
Trying to keep another person happy is not your responsibility, your job is to take care of yourself and to make sure you are happy. This man had needs no angel could meet. You did not fail him, you failed yourself by expecting that the more you did for him the better he would treat you.
He is unhappy in himself and looks to external things, people and circumstances to make him happy. He will be chasing pleasure for a long time. If you keep trying to be a savior to men, you will keep feeling disappointment.
A healthy man that takes care of himself and is not needy will treat you with respect and not cheat or take advantage of you. True love exists when two people accept each other as they are without expectation or needing the other to feel happy or complete.
2006-11-26 11:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you figure out the answer to this one, please let me know. My ex just left me the same way and we had the same issues, however, when I reflect back on the relationship I realize that I was the only person in love. That he showed signs all the time of having his own best interests at heart. He was never there for me when I needed him, emotionally, because that was the only part of the relationship that he could help me with and instead of helping me through things that he could have, he opted to leave the relationship and cause me more grief every time. Some people are just assholes but do know that he will regret it one day, when he goes to step off a curb and his knee gives out because trust me, what goes around, comes back around and it doesn't necessarily come back the way that it was put out there. Don't worry, the best thing that you can do for him is to not contact him, don't accept his calls and move on with your life and be happy because as long as you allow him to keep you down. He will.
2006-11-26 11:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sexcchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a batterer and a counselor should acknowledge that. If they don't find one who will. A batterer gets worse and worse, more violent and more violent, more self-serving as time goes by. He will separate his victim from her friends and relatives emotionally and physically. There is not one reason in the world you should stay with this person. He does not intend good for your life or the lives of your children. He intends to satisfy his own selfish desires whatever they may be. If he "changes" it will only be long enough to keep you from removing the assets (you, your service, etc) he has. Once you are stuck again, you will be stuck in the same mess as before. One description of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Don't be insane.
2016-03-29 10:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet someone, you are still getting to know them. When they take a left and you take a right, it is time to split. The problem is many women don't want to leave a man that they feel that they have invested so much time, money and love with.
You picked a loser and may pick another until you get it right, so until you are able to pick the right kind of guy, be willing to walk when you both are not walking in the same direction.
Best of luck
2006-11-26 11:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry you were hurt,some people are users and do not care about humans. i'm not gonna say don't ever trust anyone but..i'm going to say listen to your heart it knows when things aren;t right as far s helping someone ,karma does come around.he will be back ,?of the day is what will u do.give him the no of a homeless shelter. i hope you will meet some one as kind as you seem to be.
2006-11-26 11:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are way to good to these guys, almost like you are trying to buy their love[ won;t work don't do it]. Of course they are going to take advantage of you , you let them. Stop being so generous to the men, make yourself happy, if they truly love you they will be happy without taking advantage of you
2006-11-26 11:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you have had this experience, learn from it...vow to never do this again unless you are 100% positive it is worth it to YOU. look out for yourself, no one else is going to do this for you.
2006-11-26 11:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your experience. You are the wiser and stronger for it, though. Next time, you'll be more prepared and know what to avoid.
Move on. If he comes back, send him on down the road.
2006-11-26 11:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure that your heart, head and gut all agree on a guy before you get involved.
2006-11-26 11:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you were to this guy was a dollar sign. Just be with yourself for awhile and move on.
2006-11-26 11:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋