I ended up going on a date with someone that I really like yesterday. He ended kissing me by the end of the night. We both had a blast. When he dropped me off, he reach over and told me he had great time and he kissed me again. I've liked this guy since May and I found out, he's liked me since May as well. I've never just "dated" someone before so this is an all new experience for me. I don't really know what to do and I don't know how to act. We always talk-at least an average of 2 hours a night- and it's like we are together-together and not just dating. What should I do? And is this a normal feeling when you are "dating" someone?
2006-11-26 11:19:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dating is supposed to be for non-commital and non-sexual relationships. The basic concept behind dating is that you plan your free time to meet and learn about new people and eventually marry one of them. You're supposed to be seeing many people at once (no kissing or sex) in order learn as much about them as possible to see which ones are more suited to building a future with.
The one that you get along with the most will usually become your "steady" and officially made a boyfriend (or girlfriend). In which case dating others stops and your supposed to date only him (or her) to learn deeper and more serious things about them, this is where kissing, embracing (one-armed hug), and hand-holding come into play. If you're not from a super uptight religious background, then safe sex comes into play during the "steady" dating period.
After the "steady" period is the engagement, there's no more dating. You're supposed to be making plans for settling down, having kids, and retiring together. Those from super uptight religious backgrounds still won't be having sex. Open-minded relgious types may bend the rules with safe other-than-vaginal sex. Non-religious types will most likely add to their intimacy be have safe sex only half the time as a sign of affection and trust for one another.
Then there is marriage. If you were both honest and true during the dating, the "going steady", and the engagement than you basically know each other every well and plan to try for the fairy tale ending of "happily everafter" and the super uptight religious types finally get to have sex. Every couple at this stage is supposed to be having lots of unprotected sex and making babies.
2006-11-26 11:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by Rukh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this is the hardest part of dating. Each date could be your last so usually you end up getting really nervous. You can't let the guy see this though, if he senses you are clingy or needy he will begin to lose interest.
Usually after dating for a month or two, the couple decides to become exclusive, which means then they are boyfriend/girlfriend and can't date others. Until you have that "talk" you are pretty much free to see other people and do whatever you want. It's better if the girl waits for the guy to ask for exclusivity, because if she pushes for a r/ship too soon he could get scared and back off.
I highly recommend reading "Why Men Love Bitches." The title is scary, but the advice is not to act bitchy as in mean and rude, but to show respect for yourself and not let a guy walk all over you. Don't let him know you are "sprung" for him too soon.
Dating is hard during this uncertain time before you are officially a couple, especially when you are head over heals for the guy. Good luck!!!
2006-11-26 11:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always dated as opposed to being in a "traditional relationship."
In high school, dating is a pretty rare thing. Everybody is in an official relationship that lasts for 4 years with brief breaks and lots of ridiculous nonsense.
After high school people tend to stop rushing into relationships.
Most girls and a lot of guys see dating as
ort of a relationship screening process. They think that if things go well eventually somebody will say the famous line "what are we?" and there will be either a breakup or an official relationship.
A lot of us however don't date with that idea. A lot of people date with no intention of ever being in a relationship. At least not in the immediate future.
So if his idea of dating is dating and your idea of dating is relationship, then there can be problems.
2006-11-26 11:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever told you that dating "is the process of finding out who you are going to marry" is wrong. You figure that out when you are already with a person for sometime. Dating is exactly what you told us you did with youre new guy friend who by now is probably on his way to becoming your boyfriend. If it doesnt work out for you, then kool, life goes on. If it does as it appears to be so far, then youre on your way to having a boyfriend as earlier stated. As far as how to act and what to do, just slow down and take your time. You two dont have to rush on anything. Continue going out to places whenever you can together so you can continue to get to know one another. Youre on the right track. As far as whether or not its normal, i would agree that it is normal in terms of the way you feel about the whole situation. Good luck!
2006-11-26 11:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a guy or girl on a romantic or totally awsome trip to the
Movies out to dinner that kind of a thing!
2006-11-26 11:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll know if you're dating or not... dating is going on more than one date and actually getting to know eachother better for a possible relationship
2006-11-26 11:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Portland p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're dating....if there is a second date, that is. And I don't see why there wouldn't be.....
2006-11-26 11:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have always considered dating to be getting to know the other person --- do you want more --- to be with them more --- to know them better --- do get more physical with them
you sound like you are doing everything right --- so enjoy and best wishes
2006-11-26 11:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating is the procces of finding out whether or not you are going to marry each other
2006-11-26 11:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by t-man foshizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is extinct. Nobody does it properly anymore.
2006-11-26 11:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by radiancia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋