I think I have asked 1.2 million Q's about this girl and our relationship. She is definitely unique, but I am a little unconventional myself. That's why it works (when it does). So, I am stuck in limbo here. We were running hot and cold w/ each other for a while. She was scared of going further (not about sex, just relationship), I was figuring she was questioning her feelings for me so I push trying to compel a decision, when it turns out she was worried about whatever (she won't tell me) scared her before ruining any relationship we might make. So, she says she needs to be "on her own" to which I said, "I don't think I can stop you". And now she texts me all the time. So, I asked her WTF? She likes me, she loves me, she's scared of hurting me. Came over today, pretty flirty and gave me the quick "goodbye" kiss, but now I am expecting not to see her again for days. I am in a L.D.R. w/ a woman who lives 15 minutes away. If you loved them more than life, what would you do?
2006-11-26 11:09:39 · 5 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every time we started getting close, she would start to pull away. The closer we got, the further she would pull herself back. The love is real, but unfortunately so is the distance.
2006-11-26 11:10:53 · update #1
Stop talking to her. You are WAY to available. Women don't find neediness or men who are too easy attractive. And as sexist as it sounds - I'm going to say it: Women like being put in their place every once in a while. Otherwise it makes it hard to respect you.
There was a guy who was madly in love with me once. He would DO ANYTHING for me. He was rich too and at the time I was really poor. He called me all the time. Looked for ways to see me. Doted on my daughter and bought me gifts. I strung him a long for a while, but the truth was I got sick of it. No matter how outrageous the request he would have done it. It was like he was my little *****. I just couldn't respect that. And he never got anything from me. Including sex or a committment - for that reason.
2006-11-26 11:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this gal is in love with LOVE and not necessarily with you! Many gals like to have a man in the background, in case they need something to do or if they get bored. They make themsleves feel better by having a man around, 'just in case". This is unfair to you and she is not accepting her responsibility to this relationship. She clearly wants to play the field and have you as a side dish! You deserve better. Don't hang on. Be a friend but explain to her, you are tried of waiting and get on with it, your life that is. As it is said, better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all! Don't be the game that she plays.
2006-11-26 11:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by bpember744@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to give you false information, but coming from experience... I can tell you for certain that when I was younger, and pulled a stunt like this, I was dating several guys at one time. Settling down with one of them meant giving up my freedom, giving up being single... And that was a scary thought at the time.
2006-11-26 11:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by melsaruly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, she is really in love with u, she dose not want to be with you for numorous reason whisch can be:
1. She dose not want to be with you because she is in love with another guy
2. She wants to be with you but her paresnt for bid her to.
3. She loves you too much that she dose not want to hurt your feelings
2006-11-26 11:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by JMCG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop bullshitting.
2006-11-26 11:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋