I've been waiting to ask this girl out on a date because of our conflicting schedule. We've been talking for a couple months and seem to get along pretty well.
I have a Christmas party to go this Firday night for the compnay I work for. I was thinking about asking her to go with me, but I'm not sure if that would a weird setting for a first date. My parents will be there because my Mom works for the same company.
Should I just wait to take her to dinner and movie or should I ask her to the party?
2006-11-26 11:06:47 · 19 answers · asked by radchad25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Asking her to a Christmas party to meet colleagues and parents makes it clear that you are very serious about her and want a proper relationship, not just a fling.
This will either scare her off, or she will be thrilled and flattered.
At least you will know how she feels, and you've been upfront with her.
If you're not sure about how serious you want this to be, then stick to dinner and movie.
2006-11-26 12:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just wait and ask her to dinner. If for some reason you dont get along or its not going well, you dont have to make a scene at a work function. i'm in business so i believe work parties are just an extension of the work day. you should still act in a business manner. not that bringing a girl on a first date to a work function is wrong or anything, i just think maybe drinks and dinner would be better.
hope that helps.
2006-11-26 11:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. X 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't take her to the party. You don't know her well enough and these are people you work with everyday. They will start asking her questions that even you don't know the answer too.
Definately take on a few other dates before introducing her to your coworkers or your mother for that matter.
What if she has a bad habit that you just can't stand? Or farts in public? Ridiculous? Maybe - but you won't know until you spend some one on one time. Better safe then sorry.
2006-11-26 11:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a bit weird...but why not ask her if she'd like to go or would she rather y'all had a one-on-one date first...some people like the distraction and variety of social events (if things don't go well, they have others to talk to) but others prefer something more intimate for a first date/meeting...and especially with your mom being at the party, it could be awkward.
Asking her would be flattering though, that you'd want to take her to a party where coworkers and your mom would meet her...let her decide which situation she'd prefer (if either) first off...
2006-11-26 11:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely take her to the Christmas party, this shows that you are trusting her enough from the start to actually introduce her to your parents. See how she interacts with people, especially your coworkers and if you like how it is than ask her out for a second date. Remember, a lot can be learned about someone when you see them interacting with other people especially your parents!
oh well, good luck!
2006-11-26 11:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by NEGRONE1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took an ex bf to a Christmas party for our first date. It was really weird and awkward, because everyone kept saying how great he was and how he fit in. We ended up breaking it a couple of weeks later. I wouldn't recommend it.
If you really wanted to ask her out, there's creative ways to do it around your schedule. I used to work graveyard but another ex worked day shift, and instead of going out to dinner, we'd have breakfast together, even if it was just coffee. We'd go out on Saturday mornings when we'd both be off. It was actually more fun for me that way.
2006-11-26 11:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by Runaway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a first date, I would suggest a non-pressure situation. Taking this gal to meet the folks and co-workers on the first date, would seem to be a lot of pressure to go through! A simple dinner out and or a movie, would be my choice if I were to go on a first date!
2006-11-26 11:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by bpember744@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the party because then she can meet your parents and go on a first date with you.
2006-11-26 11:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by peter j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take her, but i might first take her to lunch or dinner just on the in case that she isn't a good impression type girl, so you know ahead of time what the party might be like if she is a good person with no weird problems or drama that might come out in front of your coworkers and parent, not to try to make u nervous =) thats just what i would do, but if u know her and she is ok in that area then yes take her
2006-11-26 11:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask her to the party! that would make her feel so special to be asked to your company Christmas party and be introduced to all your colleagues and especially your Mom! that means a lot to a girl to be introduced to a guys parents. it shows that you're proud to be seen with her. now all you've got to do is ask her!!!
Hope you two have a great time!
2006-11-26 11:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋