last night i called my ex...to say that we shouldnt stay in contact for awhile until i am ready. so he agreed and said that's fine. so he and i had a friendly conversation and talked about what we did yesterday. then he said, give me a call even if its a booty call?! now, seriously even if its a joke.. that is something u dont say to someone. all i wanted was to have a good convo n peace between us cus we argue still even tho we are not toghther... n after awhile we dont talk... i wanted to remain friends with him..but now, i dont know.
i was gonna send him an email n ask him why he had to joke arond like that.........my friends said dont even try to talk to him. its already been done n said... its past so move on. i guess i am hurt by it.
i know he doesnt hate me.. im sure he still cares for me.. we been broken up for 2 weeks only.. so its still fresh. i just needed to vent out.
i'm not gonna talk to him for awhile until i am ready. maybe in time we'l talk again.
2006-11-26
10:58:41
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no , i havent been giivng him anthing we havent seen each other for 2 weeks.
2006-11-26
11:03:48 ·
update #1
Just stop. Stop the calling to say you can't talk, and stop emailing and wondering and asking and being hurt and expecting friendships and things. Your friends are right. Don't even try to talk to him. Wait, and call in in 6 months if you must.
2006-11-26 11:02:28
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answered by Anonymous
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I think he was just trying to lighten up the air by making a joke. You could tell him that you were offended by it, but you do have to unwind about things a little bit. I think you still really like him, and you just don't know how to deal with it. Most of the times what you are wanting, will never work. If you are in a relationship after you break up you hardly ever stay friends. I would talk to him and tell him basically the same thing you just said in this question. See how he responds to you. I think you are over reacting just a little bit, unless there is something I don't see.
2006-11-26 19:06:28
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answered by **baby~doll** 3
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Maybe the converstion was to serious and he was only trying to get you to laugh. Yes, it was inappropiate but harmless I'm sure. I wouldn't give much thought in the matter. Give yourself time to figure out what you want and then move on in whatever direction you decide. If he truly cares about you he will wait it out. If he doesn't than he wasn't right 4 u 2 begin with. Good luck to you dear, happier days are coming. Each day is what you make of it-so try to make the best of each one.
2006-11-26 19:09:02
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answered by burnettebreeze98 2
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You cannot control what another person says, but you can change the way you think and feel about it.
There is a reason you broke up. He may be looking for sex with you without a relationship, one can imagine many scenarios. In the end, you didn't llike what he said. Don't take it personally, it is a reflection of him, not you. Take it a sign of where he is coming from and realize that you cannot change him...perhaps you can temporarily manipulate his behavior, but that won' t last.
Let it go... unless you prefer to stew in your hurt. It sounds like you have decent friends that care about you. Enjoy them and time with yourself . Don't worry about remaining friends. Que sera, sera.
2006-11-26 19:09:23
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answered by teach_empathy 3
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You need to walk away from this relationship.......It seems like that's all ya do is hurt each other . Its like running after a poisons snake that just bite you, all you are doing is driving that poison thru out your body faster
2006-11-26 19:05:17
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answered by bob 2
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ex sex...hmmm...tried that **** before. Don't work. Just stop talking to him and let him go his own way. Then see if anything gets better. You say it is not something to say to someone, but have you been giving him booty calls? Hmmm....what you think now?
2006-11-26 19:02:07
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answered by blunter26 4
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what do you want him as your friend for? let him go. Keep him as your friend will make things a lot harder for you. get over him. there are loads of guys out there that could be your friends or bfs. you're gonna keep feeling horrible if you don't let him go
2006-11-26 19:03:37
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answered by Anonymous
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