i haven't talked to my dad side of the family for the past 13 or 14 years. My parents have turned me away from them because of things in the past that they can't do anything about now or then because of their own choices. today i went down to the cemeatry where we buried my grandmother and decided to stop in just to see if they would treat me like the susposily did my parents before all ties were broken off. they didn't they were actually surprised to see me and we exchanged numbers. but my problem is i'm still living with my parents and if they knew i talk to them and want to continue talking to them and actually have a relatonship with them now besight all the crap they would flip their lids.but i will be 20 in june and i feel that i should be able to have contact with my rest of my family if i please. so do i tell my parents that i went down and decided that i want to have contact with them. or do i do as i please anyways and hide from them until i'm no longer living with them?
2006-11-26 10:57:15 · 4 answers · asked by Monica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow... it sounds like you really have a problem here. I definitely commend you for taking the initiative to get to know your dad's side of the family on your own. I'm sure that took a lot of nerve on your part. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you wanting to know them. All parents are different... but if I were you... I would sit them down and tell them that you want to be honest with them... even though they may not approve of your actions.... Parents appreciate honesty more than anything. I would tell them that you decided to pay them a brief visit recently... and while you understand that the past hurts and you can appreciate the fact that they want to keep their distance... You would like to have the opportunity to decide for yourself whether or not you want a relationship. Make sure you let them know that you are not doing it to hurt them... and that you would like their support. Parents can be difficult.. especially the stubborn ones... but it's worth a shot. Best of luck!
2006-11-26 11:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say let your parents know. but prepare yourself for some emotional fireworks display, they might say you've betrayed them. don't worry too much though, surely the outburst would be only for a while and soon after they would come to realize that you are your own person now and should be free to decide for yourself even if those decisions would sometimes clash with theirs. let your parents know that you are not doing this to hurt them intentionally.
2006-11-26 19:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what anyone says they are still family. You have to ask yourselve if its worth it. Maybe trick your parents and the other family members to meet. Just because your parents have isssues it doesn't mean you have to have the same one.
2006-11-26 19:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by BIG RED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you tell them. But I'd also suggest you have the means to survive. They may just toss you out!
2006-11-26 19:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋