So about a month ago, I met a boy named Alan at a football game through a friend. We really clicked, and ended up walking home, hand and hand. He asked for any of my messengers, so we could talk some. We talked for about a week on MSN before we met up again, this time at the movie theatre. once we got into the movie, he grabbed my hand, and I didn't think of anything of it. Then things got out of hand. He would move his hand onto my leg and stroke my thigh. Then after about ten minutes, he moved into kiss me, and in sheer panic, I kissed him back. We ended up making out. Okay, let's fast forward. I did tell one friend, and she is in highschool. and when I did tell her, her mouth dropped. She then told me she knew who Alan was, and he's a senior, and 18. I'm in 8th grade and 13. I freaked out. Earlier this week, he called me, wanting to "get closer to each other" I still don't know what to do. I think that he's using me, but I still want to be friends with him. Help?
2006-11-26 10:37:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really want to stay friends. He is a good person, and he's easy to talk to. I don't even think he knows I'm 13.
2006-11-26 11:07:53 · update #1
You can't be friends with him. Stop talking to him and stop seeing him or your parents might have him arrested.
2006-11-26 10:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him...he's breaking the law by "playing" with a minor. Besides, there is little you'll have in common with an 18 yr old, to have much of a friendship.
Enjoy being a kid...when its over, it's over forever...the responsibilities, challenges, and issues of being an adult will be with you the rest of your life...along with plenty of time for making out, sex, men, etc...let that wait a few years...before you end up with WAY more on your plate than you are prepared to handle.
2006-11-26 10:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An 18 yr. old has no business with a 13 yr. old. This guy is very bad news. You must not have any further contact with him and you truly need to tell your parents for protection because guys like that usually do not give up so easily and will continue to pursue you and possibly attempt to intimidate and even threaten you. You must not try to protect him by keeping this a secret. What he is trying to do is very wrong. Please stay away from him and seek help before it is too late.
2006-11-26 10:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by moonshadow79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, listen to me, he wants one thing and one thing only-sex, then he'll drop you. Please do not make a mistake and don't flatter yourself, he is just preying on innocent girls. Drop him, don't answer the messages or phone or anything. If you don't think that you are strong enough to do this. Tell your parents and believe me they'll take care of it for you. If you don't have a good relationship with your parents, then tell him you are going to tell the authorities at school to call his parents. That will stop him. And, oh, don't tell him in person
because the attraction is obvious and you might not be able to stop him from touching you. Respect yourself at all costs.
2006-11-26 10:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. Hes after sex and hes way too old. He could go to jail for fooling around with you then get labeled a sex offender for the rest of his life. Nothing good will come out of this.
2006-11-26 10:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my GOSH girl! He is DEFINITELY using you, what a shady character...unfortunately you cannot be friends with him. You guys are in WAY different places and stages in your lives being 5 years apart, and he wouldn't be interested in being friend with you or hanging out with you. He wants ONE thing and thinks he can get it from you because you're young and "don't know any better". Cut it off with him. Don't give him what he wants!
2006-11-26 10:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what i want to know is what the hell is a 18 yr. old wanting with a 13 year old dont answer his phone calls and break up he's just using you for s e x sorry
2006-11-26 10:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Renee 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely using you,and should stop it before he takes advantage of you. Your thirteen,and he knows better. Don't feel pressured to stay,he is using the fact that he can possibly manipulate you with his looks,and charm,don't fall for it.
2006-11-26 10:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definetly using you, and if he really does like you it wont work out well so break up with him, and he he doesn't get 2 upset ask him if he wants to hang out still.
2006-11-26 10:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by goniners1000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahahaha! Dude, he's gonna be a pedophile in the making unless you look not-thirteen.
Anyway, it sounds like he's using you for sex, so if you don't want to be done like that, I suggest you ignore him and block him away as much as possible.
2006-11-26 10:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by burnsk8er2000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not let him touch you in any way. He is a creepy person that you shouldnt want to be friends with anyway. And you're right, he is using you, and has zero intrest in being your friend.
2006-11-26 10:40:40 · answer #11 · answered by kararose 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋