Im a 17 year old girl and know this 27 year old guy as hes my friends boyfriends brother. We get on so well together and i started to like him ages ago. The guy has a girlfriend of nearly 4 years. A while back i realised it couldn't happen and moved on but two weeks ago he text me and told me he really likes me and wants to cheat on his girlfriend with me! We met up the next day to talk bout it and just said it couldnt work but we cant ignore our feelings...He text me again the other night and said if i was bored to call to his house on saturday night (last night). I was already at his house last night, as i hang there with my friends, when he came home and we all ended up hanging out til 3 in the morning. We didnt do anything but let each other know that we wanted to but couldnt b/c of my friends and his brother! Let me no if u think its totally wrong? I feel guilty even though we havent done anything but i really like him!
2006-11-26 10:12:03 · 19 answers · asked by irish gal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am very mature and he acts like hes 20 ish...
I go to to college right now and he goes to a different college as a mature student..
2006-11-26 10:19:25 · update #1
i dont consider this a "booty call" he knows im still a virgin and is fine with it..
2006-11-26 10:24:01 · update #2
even if he did break up with his girlf i dont think we could be together b/c my family and friends...
I dont feel he is using me as we have had the chance to cheat when we met up but we just talked.
2006-11-26 10:30:08 · update #3
im not a minor as u have to be 17 in ireland and im almost 18.
2006-11-26 10:31:54 · update #4
What he is doing now to his gf is going to do to u after a while. He shows no respect in hid gf or U for that matter. It's just like saying: "hey, i'm bored with my wife, won't u f*ck with me? cause u are something new". I'm not even going to open the discussion about the other things wrong in here. Just consider what I've told u.
2006-11-26 10:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you are doing...or rather what this great guy of yours is proposing you both do. Firstly he is a cheater...and if he cheats on her he will cheat on you. Secondly he is cheating with someone almost half his age. thirdly please dont get sucked in by this guy...he wants to bonk you...nothing more. Tell him to break up with his girlfriend before you even think of going out with him. I bet he runs a mile. Why do you want to be a fill in for when she isnt available which is what you are intending to be? Just because you like him doesnt mean you have to be an immoral piece of meat like he wants you to be. Show some self control...you will be glad you did. You are worth much more than being his bit on the side when he is bored or they have had an argument. You should feel guilty....but he should feel worse. Do you wonder why he doesnt? It's because he is a user.
2006-11-26 10:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
* You are a minor. He could face criminal charges if you two were together.
* If he wants to cheat on his girlfriend with you, why would you want to be with him? He does not respect you or his girlfriend. Someone his age should be more respectful of women and relationships.
*Worst case scenerio: you cheat with him, his girlfriend/your family find out and file charges against him, and you are used, alone and I hope not pregnant or diseased.
*Best case scenerio: you are used, defiled, and don't know any better because you are too young to know any different.
Please don't, it is totally wrong. I know I sound harsh, but it comes from experience. Everyone makes mistakes, but why not avoid the ones you can? You must know it's a mistake, or else you would not be asking. I am 29 now and happily engaged. When I was your age, I was much more prone to make mistakes,and I thought I was so smart then.
There are plenty of men out there. Stick with the guys you go to school with now. You are too young to be hurt by something so complicated.
Hope this helps and good luck!
2006-11-26 10:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ten years is a lot at your age. once you're older it's not so bad though. Depends on the maturity level of the people involved. If you are a REALLY mature 17 year old that was forced to face "life" at an early age then it might be ok. But other than that, you two will probably have different views on life and very different goals.
2006-11-26 10:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by jennytkd13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY AWAY...in the end u will be the one getting hurt. this is just a lust thing u know. and he is with his g/f for 4 years for a reason. he probably loves the girl, and is bored...which is why he would consider sleeping with you. u know u r a minor right? and he could go to jail. to answer your question...yes, this is totally wrong. you dont want to be that girl that knows his girlfriend exist, but u still become the other woman. that is slutty and trashy. do the right thing and start getting all hot and bothered about a guy your age. WHO IS SINGLE! and by the way. even if he left his g/f he would eventually do the same thing to you..but you will put yourself in that situation if you did something so low and stupid.
2006-11-26 10:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he really likes you then he would break up with his girlfriend.
NOT cheat on her with you.
and the age difference is pretty big but age doesn't matter when your in love right??
And plus you mentioned that you liked this guy for a long time.
Look at me? i liked this guy who is 4 years older than me for a long time too and we finally ended up together. He was in cali but moved back to hawaii to be with me... when a guy does something like that to be with you then you definitely know he cares.
Just follow your heart and do what it tells you. Dont worry about what other people think as long as you feel right with your decision everything will work out.
2006-11-26 10:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kuuipo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the age gap that's wrong but it's what he's willing to do that's totally wrong. You may think that this guy is interested in you but I think that this guy is just selling you a bunch of bull. He knows that you like him and so he's telling you that he wants to leave his girlfriend to be with you. He's just trying to get in your pants girl ! He knows that you'll do anything for him if he gives you a little attention. He's probably a little bored right now and he wants some fresh meat. Be careful ! He's bad news.
2006-11-26 10:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by dd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man is too old for you. Your guilt feelings are right on target. Since he wants to "cheat" on his girlfriend with you, suggests to me, that you're just a "booty call" away for him to have some fresh flesh on the side. Let this "old timer" alone, at 17 you should be dating guys around your own age and not someone who can truly take advantage of you, like him.
2006-11-26 10:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big age difference at this age. In 5-10 years it wouldn't be so much of big deal, but you are probably still in high school, then you'll be in college. He's already gone through these stages. It's up to you but you gotta think about whats best for you.
Plus, if he wants to cheat on his girlfriend with you, what makes you think that he wouldnt cheat on you with another girl who comes along later?
2006-11-26 10:15:40 · answer #9 · answered by Erin* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your 17 its too much of a gap, wait till your 18 at least.
it sounds like hes just using you to cheat on his girlfriend, so i hope you dont decide to do anything with him under the assumption that he realy has feelings for you. Not to mention any guy who premeditates cheating on his long term girlfriend is a peice of sh;t, and probly has cheated more than once.
anyway, good luck
2006-11-26 10:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Nae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋