iam 28 right now and i started to date this girl when i was 20 ,since then we have had a on and off relationship, like we dated for 3 years then she moved away and we seperated for 4 years and then we got back together for 3 monts,a real mess..anyway i dont want this relationship anymore but when i tell her i dont want it she constantly keeps calling my cell and my home nummber and my office.she constantly calls cursing and wishing for me to die? its a huge mess and iam stuck ,its like the more i tell her to go away the more agrassive she gets.its really freaky! even when i try rationalizing with her, telling her that we are not ment to be together she get pissed off,,its her way or no way!
2006-11-26 10:04:38 · 15 answers · asked by R.A. 1978 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ouch, maybe you need to change your phone number! Definitely stop answering her calls and avoid ANY contact. Don't give her a chance to curse you out. If she does anything crazy then maybe you need to threaten to get the cops involved.
2006-11-26 10:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by jennytkd13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shades of Fatal Attraction, start by not taking her calls, block the number she calls from most and ignore the rest. So you don't answer your phone every time it rings for the next couple of weeks, if it's important the caller will leave a message. Is she moves on to bigger and better things like just showing up at your work or home, call the police and have an officer have a talk with her. That way she'll se your serious and not just playing with her.
2006-11-26 10:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by patti duke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your phone number or at least don't answer it when she calls. The more you respond to her, it only sends her the message that there's still hope for the two of you. Sometimes when we break up with someone, just because it is over for us, it may not always be over for the other person. Therefore being polite and consumed by someone you don't want anymore becomes a very unhealthy situation. You'll just have to cut all of your ties with her. At this point you can't even be her friend. It starts with you. If you want out, you have to stay out. It's no longer about what she wants, you have to do what's right for you.
I am sure this is hard, but stay true to yourself and cut her off.
2006-11-26 10:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gonna have to be firm, tell her its over & not to call you any more. When she does, and you know she will, do NOT answer. Avoid at all opportunities. Go to new places where she won't know that you will be. What I mean here is make a different routine. If all else fails, you may need to get a restraining order.
Best of luck!
2006-11-26 10:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by oracle1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep records of every phone call and email etc and get a restraining order. She is stalking you. Dont let her emotionally blackmail you. Tell her its over and not to call you again. If she still persists change your numbers. She sounds like a nutcase so keep your eyes open and your wits about you.
2006-11-26 10:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order; no means no. She harassing you to no end; especially contacting you at work. Record the conversations and head straight to the courthouse and file a restraining order, if that won't keep her foul mouth shut, I don't know what will...
2006-11-26 10:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by motherkc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't leave you alone, she is a stalker. Go to the police station and get a restraining order. It sounds like she has mental problems. Keep away from her and change your phone #.
2006-11-26 10:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a stalker if she won't leave you alone.
Change your number, your locks, and get a restraining order on her.
You've tried rationalizing with her. Now's the time to get serious, before SHE gets violent.
2006-11-26 10:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by A Wells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said it its "her way or no way" what are you going to do, i can't tell you, u need to make up ur mind wether u want to play by her rule book or break off the relationship and start afresh else where? i would break it off (ouch!) and start else where if it where me, but its up to you, she's annoyed because she is angry, she is clearly clinging on, and if you say "im sorry" she will proberly get the huff anyway, an then go out with u, not worth it IMO but its up to u.
2006-11-26 10:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you have a big mess on your hands. Try stop taking her calls and dont answer her messages. never try rationalizing with her cause that will never work. just simply ignore her and maby she will go away. sounds like you have tried to be nice about it so you done your part. I pray for you deeply. god bless you.
2006-11-26 10:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋