Christmas card, he dont get to see his dad but knows that he send him money monthly(child Suport) he also knows that he has a sister as well, she 4 and he tell everyone about her, even though he never meet her before. he wonder whyhis( real father) does not come around to visit him, I told him that me and his step-father loves him very much, he seem O.K with this. but want a sister so bad, I not going to have any more children in the future. I gave him a pet, a toy bear and gives him lots of attention. hoping he forget all about the little girl, maybe in the near future they will meet later in life and have a relationship....What do you think my friend said call her mother and we can meet and talk and the two of them will have a bond. I said forget it! My son dad seem like he did'nt want to have anything to do with us, which is O.K. with me, but for my son I don't know, I want to make the right choices for him right now he is 7.
2006-11-26 10:03:31 · 11 answers · asked by birdsdafly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's okay for him to send a card but you should let him know that he should understand that he should not expect much from the dad that way he's not disappointed.
2006-11-26 10:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by tofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there could be some miscommunication going on. Perhaps the four adults could get together for the sake of the children and discuss the situation calmly and be rational. Set up visitation for your ex to spend time with his son and for the brother and sister get to know each other. The adults need to think of the kids first and foremost and set aside any bad feelings from the past.So in answer to your question, yes it is appropriate. You said your ex seems like he doesn't want to spend time with your son, but you don't know for sure, and that is where the communication comes in. If the father of your son does nothing then you have tried your best.
BTW, a toy bear is not a pet and cannot take the place of a person, the toy might take his mind off it for awhile but that is all. You need to try because this is something your son will deal with for the rest of his life.
2006-11-26 10:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by curious ma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I think a Christmas Card is ok, it sounds like your son wants more. It may be time for you to send your 'ex' a letter or arrange a meeting to talk about it and see how things sit now. He may have softened his opinion about contact, he may not. At least if you meet, you'll know how things are now. And, if he's in the holiday spirit, this might be the best time to talk to him about it.
I would do this first, before you get your sons hopes up. If he really wants to send the card, let him - just let the dad know it's coming in advance.
2006-11-26 10:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it would be a good idea to send a card then maybe the father will realize that he does have a son and he needs to know him. My father and brother no longer speak, my brother is 16 and he's decided that he doesn't want our father in his life and now my father is soooo depressed because he never tried to fix things with my brother. Give your son a chance either it will end good for him if not then he understands why. He's so little and there's still time for him to know his father. My father waited so long and when he realized it was just too late.
2006-11-26 10:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him send his dad a card. It may change things for him. At his age he will always think his dad is the best (even though he is not around)... Let him send the card, help him with it...shoots send a picture! But under no circumstances should you let what you think of his dad hinder his opinion...trust me, when he gets older...you will apprecite this:)
2006-11-26 10:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's no longer suited in any respect. And it rather isn't any longer your employer besides as this one is your former son in regulation. And if he's the daddy of your grandkids then you somewhat ought to be respectful and not upload gasoline to the fireplace.
2016-10-17 14:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by hultman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you dare tell the kid he can not see his father. Sounds to me you are like the rest of the women here in america and has their children as a way to get child support so they do not have to work and support themselves. I have to find my father now because my mother did the same thing. You women need to get your act together. The child needs his father. Not the man you chose to sleep with at the moment. What the hell is wrong with this country?
2006-11-26 10:08:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yes, it is a good idea. It will remind his father that there is a little boy who misses his father. I hope he realizes that he is hurting a child.
2006-11-26 10:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well call his dad and talk to him, let him know what is going on
2006-11-26 10:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-11-26 10:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋