Is it wrong that my daughter sleeps in my bed?

Question

I'm living with my mother at this time and when my daughter,7 years old, comes over from her mothers house she sleeps in my bed. She used to sleep with my mother because my bed was too small, up until i got my bigger bed. Then i read an article where someone says it was bad, but in this situation the father would leave the mothers bed and go in and sleep with the daughter(which is a bit odd). This is basically because of lack of space in my situation. I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. What do you think? Oh, and no "Get out of your moms house" comments. I'm not an idiot.

Answer 1

It would be better for her to sleep in your Mom's bed still. Why? Primarily to protect yourself, and your daughter, from others' perceptions. People are always looking for someone to say nasty things about, be they true or false, and when they can affect your family it's best to avoid the situation in the first place.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with it, unless you feel that there is. I live in a large city in an apartment building where about five or more people living in a 1-bedroom apartment is the norm. Many of them sleep in odd rooms of the house and in shared beds. It would be nice if everyone could have a giant 2-story house with enough bedrooms and beds for everyone, but that is not reality for a lot of us. Don't worry what other people think about it. If it works, it's fine.

Answer 3

I would say that your daughter should probably not be sleeping in your bed for her own sake. She needs that indepndence and so do you. If space is the problem, then maybe she coudl sleep in your bed and you could sleep on a couch. I dont think there is anything wrong with it, if it is because you dont have enough space, but alot of people probably do so it is probably best to just get her out of your bed. She is a little too old for it.

Answer 4

I'm sure a lot of people will list bad repercussions of letting her sleep in your bed, but I don't think it has to be that way. I think that if it is only occasionally and it is the most comfortable for everyone, it is okay. I would ask your daughter how she feels about it and if she would rather sleep on the floor or have you sleep on the floor, I'm sure she is old enough to answer this question honestly. Of course, everyone needs their privacy but I think that she isn't to that pre-teen age yet where she will feel uncomfortable with it. Just use your best judgement and if you think things aren't right, change the situation.

Answer 5

My fiance has a 7 year old daughter, he only gets to see her during the summers. She wants to sleep in our bed every chance she gets. She still has to take a nap during the day and daddy still has to go in there and lay down with her. There is nothing wrong with it. She is just wanting to be close to her father because you are not around all the time. It is fine for now, she should grow out of it in the next couple of years.

Answer 6

I don't think there is anything wrong with it but I'm sure you'll get a lot of people saying there is. Generally, in a situation like this, if I'm wondering about whether something is wrong behaviour I think about how we evolved. When we were cave people we did not put our child in the cave next door to sleep from the time it was born. If we did we never would have evolved as all our young would have been eaten by saber-toothed tigers (or such like). We would have slept in a close family unit to protect our group.

I'm sure your daughter'll let you know when she wants/needs to change the sleeping situation.

Answer 7

I would say she's been through enough trauma with the breakup of her parents, and to ask her to not sleep with you would be too much for her right now at 7.

However, after considering it for a few minutes, I realized that this situation could be turned against you by your ex or her family, etc. You never know. Better for you to protect yourself to get her to slowly move out of your bed... maybe sleep on the floor for a while... and then move her from the same room.

Answer 8

That is soooooo not right!!!! I'll stop there so I don't get reported for insulting another person.........

I see nothing wrong with a mom sleeping in the same bed as her daughter, or a dad sleeping in the same bed as his son, but......
nope....
A dad in the same bed as a 7 year old daughter is asking for trouble. What if she said something around an adult who didn't know the situation????
Can you imagine what they would think if they heard her say...
"My daddy sleeps in the same as me." Innocent or not, in this day & age............

Answer 9

Shes your child, i see nothing wrong with it. Just don't sleep naked. People have said stuff about my little sister who if i'm visiting my mom likes to play in the bathtub while i take a shower. i'm 22 and shes 9. I think if someone makes a big deal out of it, it is them that are perverted for thinking that way in the first place. Your fine i believe... but you can wait for more opinions if you like.

Answer 10

i do no longer think of it particularly is incorrect! a large variety of youngsters discover convenience in that; plus the actuality that she's next to somebody she loves. impressive now your daughter in all hazard desires this pondering the region. do no longer problem, she'll at last desire her own mattress too, so as no longer common because it particularly is, i'd attempt to attend it out! ;) For now, you are able to try beginning off dozing in her mattress, then get up whilst she's asleep on your man or woman mattress. i'd additionally talk along with her and notice if something is bothering her too.