im with someone and in the process of buying a house, just want to make sure im doing the right thing and i really do love him
2006-11-26 10:01:00 · 25 answers · asked by pop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're having doubts about that sort of thing, then maybe moving into a house together is not the best thing for you right now. Maybe you need take some more time. When you're in love, you'll know!
2006-11-26 10:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by jennytkd13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I would like to believe that love romantic and you can just feel it, I don't think this is the case. According to book I read you go through three different stages, one; lust, two; infatuation, and three; love and comitiment. The first one is purely physical attraction. The second one is where most people think they are in love including me, but really the brain is releasing feel good chemicals. This is natures way to get females and males together long enough to procreate. In this day in age this is still our main objective on earth funnily enough. This is said to last for around 3 to 12 months. I think if your relationship has gone through this second stage, and everything has calmed down a bit, then you have something true, that is based on companionship and not just those chemicals. If you don't think your there yet, not to worry, I wouldn't personally recomend that you move in with the person though.
Overall whats meant to be is meant to be,
If it all goes wrong it just means that the right one is still out there waiting, and you had to learn from this relationship before you get there, life is full of possibilities, and your future is never certain, I think you just have to enjoy it while you can
good luck, and there is no such thing as a mistake
2006-11-26 10:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you're not sure about buying the house, don't do it. There are too many ifs especially since you're doubting if your really in love. Love is indescribable and each persons own experience with it has a different meaning. But for me its being able to give yourself and your future to someone else with your full trust that they wont hurt you or leave you hanging. Find out what you think love is before you make a decision that big.
2006-11-26 10:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lexy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Pop,
There are no words that can be said here or anywhere that could ever give you that answer.
Take a few days to be alone. Somewhere where you won't be bothered or interrupted by anyone or anything. (Personally, anywhere out in nature does it for me) Get still, get focused and search your heart - I mean really search, with brutal honesty.
You may or may not find your answer even with days to meditate on it, but I guarantee, that only good can come of it, and to the degree that you can take this time, you will undoubtedly find many truths about a great many things - maybe even the truth about how you really feel for him.
Know this too, that the search for truth is not an event, it is a moment-by-moment lifelong process, but you will only find truth when you are completely honest with yourself. Journaling helps me.
May you find your truth. Best wishes.
2006-11-26 10:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by stargazerjimbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it is when you love the person more than life itself but try and think wot it would be like without him in your life if its hard to imagine or makes you feel bad you do love him but remember buying a home is stressful you ar making a big decision in your life just with buying a house so you will have mixed feelings its only natural you will feel that way
2006-11-26 10:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your looking in the wrong place! First you have to love yourself. Love is a magic kitchen. Without this you will search but never find love in the arms of anyone else. Try reading some of Osho or Don Miguel Ruiz before you comitt to a mortgage.!
2006-11-26 10:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by kenjinuk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
itshard to say when you know when you are in love I guess when you feel it in your heart and feel its the ture thing and not just lust or a crush or whatever you would call it. Love is a strong powerful thing and it has to be careful how it is used but no matter whateveryone is different love hits them when they are ready and you will know when your in love.
2006-11-26 10:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by April 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes love can be confused with infatuation/obsession/lust.
just imagine your future, can you picture you two having a family?
buying a house is a big step. and i'm thinking if you're that far, maybe you do love him because you trust him ~
2006-11-26 10:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by kimee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never know for sure i dont think. my fiance is wonderful, were really happy andi still sometimes ask mysellf ifi truly love him or just want to cos hes so great!
try to imagine how youd feel without them..if they left you etc..that should give you a fair idea.
2006-11-26 10:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by serephina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thinking your in love is the best as its gonna get, buy your house with your man but sooner or later be prepared for him to f**k you over!
my advice get the house put in your name so when that shity day comes you are not left with nothing, trust no-one, even the one you love.
2006-11-26 10:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by KELLY I 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋