I was raped b4 and most girls say that they never trust again. I found that my b/f's arms were where I felt safest and have no problem being around guys. Is it normal to trust again in barely a month?? I didn't go to counsuling, or report it cuz I didn't want to. Is this normal??
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2006-11-26 09:55:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is it normal to be ok with having sex after being raped also??
I knew my b/f for 2 years b4 it all happened and the person wasn't him.It was his friend. Is that part of why I trust him so much?? Cuz wouldn't it be opposite??
2006-11-26 09:58:13 · update #1
Should I trust him as much as I do?? My friend has similar experiences and says not to ever trust a man again. Is she right??
2006-11-26 09:59:31 · update #2
Perhaps you are dealing with your pain in a codependent manner, by seeking safety in someone else. You need to explore this honestly, because in the long run, the only way you will truly feel whole is if you can feel safe on your own. Support groups really do help, should you feel that would be appropriate for you.
2006-11-26 09:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by MissAnthropic 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
well, it is Normal to not trust man after the rape. well it took me two months somewhat. but meeting my boyfriend only two months after my abuse. help a whole lot. yes it is Normal not to go to counsuling, or report it. only 36% of women report it
2006-11-29 03:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by neakblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look babe, I've been rape, sexually molested and abused. It was hard for me to trust anybody but I asked God to give me the strength to trust again. And you know what a month later i didn't have no worries
2006-11-26 18:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shows that you have a healthy attitude about love and sex. Just because one man raped you does not mean all men are that way, and obviously you know that and you trust your boyfriend, and allow him to protect you.
Sounds like you have a very strong, aware spirit and mind.
2006-11-26 18:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you are kidding yourself. believe me. you need to get help or at least talk to a councilor and if you feel safe then you are lucky. To not report it is a choice you make. just remember he can and will do this to someone else. You have to realize that you will always look over your shoulder. I still do 21 years later. I was 16 and back then the standard line was" what did you do to provoke the attack".. So I did not report it. it would be seen as me doing something to make him do that. when it comes to rape there is no normal its just you and your instinct for survival.
2006-11-26 18:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You just gotta let it go, and never be afraid to stand up for yourself. Being a man, if someone ever tried to rape me, I'd probably kill the dude.
Just be with your b/f, he's your safe haven, and don't let rape happen to you ever again.
2006-11-26 18:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by Greg S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok hunnie i knowits hard to talk to some one. but i was raped many of times too. it happend to me for 3 years almost everyother night. i was lso scared and didnt want to repot it. but when i finally did i felt alot safer. you can trust people after it but it depends how why. hunnie you need to tell an adult so this guy can go to prision for doign this. and also if you tell and he can go to prison you just stoped him from doing it from other lil kids, or teens. that felling fells good. ive exprinced it.
2006-11-26 18:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a Cop every rape case is different. what your doing is completely normal your bf is your safe haven. go check your self out at the hospital its confidential.
2006-11-26 18:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
its normal but dont fool yourself into thinking that nothing is wrong because you could also be depending on others in a way to hide your emotions which in the long term is dangerous
2006-11-26 18:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think its good that ur willing trust again
i actually nearly raped a while ago by one of my ex-boyfriends.
ur actually doing something good. not eevry guy is like that and ur taking that chance again. good for u! ^__^ i wish u both luck!
2006-11-26 18:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋