Ok, so there is this wierd priest ( I will call him Fr. ?)who is probably about 70 and he is retired but sometimes does mass at the local churches. My brother is an altar server and he told me that Fr.? kept hugging him and touching him..not necessarily in an inappropriate manner, but enough to bother him. (BTW, this was after the whole sex-scandal thing w/the priests, so this was very stupid on the priest's part) I told him he was probably just being friendly, but my friend is also an altar server at another church and he said that he felt uncomfortable around Fr.? as well, by being touched and hugged too much in the changing area. This concerned me and I don't know who to talk to if it were to happen again! I am not big into accusations :(
2006-11-26 09:51:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ok, lets set the little fact that I like rocky horror aside for this
Which brings up another question: Since when can Catholics not like rocky horror? everytime I post something about religion, someone brings up my avator. Did I ever mention that I was a STRONG catholic in this? no...
2006-11-26 09:56:01 · update #1
Midge, I understand. But with all the bad publicity the priests are getting today, do you find it wise for a priest to be making altar boys uncomfortable? I must admit, this priest talks kind of gay and wierd..I would suggest priests, no matter how much they want to hug, should keep their hands to themselves.
2006-11-26 09:57:32 · update #2
Is that what made you a Rocky Horror fan?
2006-11-26 09:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by norhollywud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing I see of a sexual manner in what you have described, and before you destroy this Priest`s reputation by a knee-jerk reaction because of the real cases of abuse, get concrete proof first, but remember Priests are only human and need to interact with other people too, and not every Priest has perverted motives but only a small percentage, be careful that you are not reading something into this that isn`t there.
and if this doesn`t suit then go and confront the man.
2006-11-26 10:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel sorry for our priests. a few bad eggs have forever stained the reputation of them all, regardless of the fact that the majority of priests take their church and clergy very seriously.
if none of the touching was inappropriate, but did make them uncomfortable, then why not just tell Father that it was? he probably just thought that he was being friendly and caring. Many priests view their church members as ther own family.
2006-11-26 10:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Sam B. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Paul writes that if you have a complaint with an individual, address them first, and if they wont' listen, bring along one or two respectworthy mutual acquaintances who will also support your complaint. I forgot what the third part was - been a while since I've read Paul's letters.
Just go talk to the man. Maybe he really doesn't realize his affectionate gestures make people uncomfortable, or maybe he is hiding something. And ;you can address his hugging without making any accusations.
2006-11-26 09:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Smiley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for priests today that's all I can say. Why don't you mention it to the priest that these boys feel uncomfortable with hugging. Sometimes it really is just a way to show affection. Some priests really take their Father-ship seriously.
I can't believe the answers above --- call the FBI? call the police ? because someone was hugged? give me a break.
2006-11-26 09:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Midge 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What about the priest who was molested by two 17-year old girls.
You people are always telling bad stories about priests, but you don't tell any stories about priests getting molested.
Personally I would like to hear about the girls who molested the priest and I'd like to hear the details, but the whole thing is being hushed up. I understand they did it in the rectory. C'mon tell me more.
2006-11-26 09:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well talk to the FR...maybe he is not aware of the negative feeling that his 'friendliness" is causing. Give him a chance to explain or change. If you are not comfortable talking to the FR directly, talk to his superior. Perhaps that person will be able to assist you.
2006-11-26 10:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by saopaco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not talk to Fr. about it. Go straight up to him and ask him if he likes boys. Make it into a convincing proposition and you may catch a rat.
What's the risk? He'll give you some penance to do...? Because it's entrapment, he won't be charged if he accepts...? So what.! You'll know and so will everyone else if he turns out to be a perv.
(((( r u randy? ))))
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2006-11-26 10:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like the priest might have a problem, If it dosen't stop, contact the police or your parents.
2006-11-26 09:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by l2wh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the authorities,police,FBI.... Not the church because they have covered this up for many years.
2006-11-26 09:54:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋