We are VERY attracted to each other. He has always been attracted to me. When I was 16, he asked me out & wanted me then. Apparently, my friend went behind me & told him he wasnt my type. He was deployed a short time later. We reunited 10 years ago.......... This is NOT a new relationship& yes, sex has come into it. We have never been secretive & talk about everything. Problem is.......... He is very career oriented & his job is VERY dangerous. He says I distract him very easily. I am affraid that if he knows I am in love with him ( he knows I love him - we are close ) He may shy away due to the job...... Ok guys, what do you say........tell him or not ? P.S - he has made mention about possibly changing positions. He is in Law Enforcement. *not a street officer. Ever seen the "UNIT"? Please help.
2006-11-26 09:42:52 · 5 answers · asked by Kim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all nothing good ever comes from a lie or a secret, so yes you should tell him. Secondly, people often confuse sex with love. True love goes far beyond sexual gratification and physical attraction. Your opening line addresses the phsyical aspects of your relationship rather then your spiritual connection. My advice to you is to make sure BOTH of you are in Love. For your relationship to truly be successful both of you must feel the same way about each other. If he really loves you, he will choose you over his career. I will keep you in my prayers. Peace and God bless.
2006-11-26 09:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he seems like the perfect guy if you cut his job out. you two are attracted to each other. major plus. not being secretive and talk about everything. major plus. jobs. boooo...
i say tell him. its better to be with him and worry a little then to be without and always wonder. what if?
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
Life was so much easier when boys and girls had cooties.
2006-11-26 17:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well really this one is all up 2 u...and if he is going 2 be going off on dangerous missions and what not im not sure ifu want 2 put yourself into the situation... cause if y'all deside 2 get married and have kids if somthing goes wrong while he is goen u will end up a single mom with more problems then u can handle.... so its all in your desision... if he gets a less dangarous job or field in his orginivation i wouldent recamend getting married or anything serious
2006-11-26 17:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in love with his job. That's more important to him than anything else. If you want to play second fiddle, stay, otherwise find someone who has time for you.
2006-11-26 17:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aint you a grown *** woman...get it together
2006-11-26 17:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋