2006-11-26 09:41:46 · 16 answers · asked by Kristy C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You are not yet an adult....
Your parents are still responsible for you until then. I do not know if you are an adult at 18 or 21 but you do not have much time left with your parents Slow down and enjoy your time with them. Soon they will not be around.
2006-11-26 09:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Molly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if someone else has said this but.... My step daughter had the same problem with her mom and stepdad. With her mom it was because the mother had her own personal issues that because she herself had done certain things she assumed the 17 would too. And the stepdad was a very religous man he tried to keep her from becoming "a bad girl". Both never gave her the benefit of the doubt or considered that she was her own person. Just try to see where your parents are coming from that just may be your answer.
2006-11-27 17:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by starlight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In parent’s eyes sons and daughters are, and will always be, a son or daughter. Yup! even when your 35 years old, they’ll still see you as “daughter”. They will intellectually know you are a grown adult, but emotionally, mentally you’re still their daughter at 35. They will only “let you go” when they stop breathing.
Soon as you have children it will become crystal clear and you’ll completely understand. Until then just accept it,, it’s like the sun coming up every morning, happens every day even when it’s cloudy or raining,, it’s still there. understand?? This too is part of becoming the adult woman which you are becoming,, accepting some things are a mystery as to why, but accepting them anyway and carrying on with your life despite not liking or fully understanding the mystery.
2006-11-26 18:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off let me tell you, its because your parents care about you.
I'm 22 now, and my mom wasn't to strict, but there was a lot she didn't let me do. I now thank her for it, truthfully, Who knows what would have happened. I know far too many people who have been Hurt in some way or another, parties, crazy stuff...etc... I had a 12:00 curfew until i was 18, which I hated then. But the less you complain about everything, either its hanging out later, or going to parties, or boys... Whatever the situation, the less you complain, the older they will realize you are and they will start to realize how your acting. They should ease up a bit.
2006-11-26 18:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki Lynn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yours is the classic parent child struggle... You see yourself as grown up and able to make your own choices your parents see you making choices they know from experience will lead to heartbreak and trouble... Your parents want to protect you from the heartbreak and trouble which leads them to set rules to modify your choices which you see as them treating you as a child... See the circle...
Your best bet would be to have a heart to heart sitdown talk with your parents explain your side (be calm and rational) I know you think you are already calm and rational but over play it be massively overly calm and rational... Ask your parents to give you a bit more freedom to make some of your choices, if you and your parents can talk calm and rationally you can come to an agreement that will allow you more (not all) the freedom you want while still giving your parents a sense of protecting you from the bad they know is out there...
No matter how old you get you will always be your parents child thats a fact of life.. what you need to do now is slowly (very slowly) begin morphing your relationship with your parents into what it will be as an adult relationship, by doing this rationally and calmly you will show your parents you are ready for this new relationship... If you however are not calm and rational you are not ready for this new relationship..
Yes it's up to you to show your parents you are able and ready for more responsibility consistantly and over time and you will get that responsibility and the freedom of choice that comes with it...
2006-11-26 19:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents never let go completly, I'm 39 and my mom still babies me and trys to "help" and now with kids(teenagers yet) I can understand it, not to say it does not drive me crazy. To get a little more freedom you need to prove to your parents that you are mature enough to have that freedom. Be honest with them and make smart choices in your life. Respect them and the fact that they worry about you and that it is their house you live in and they who pay the bills. Its hard for parents exspecially if you are the youngest, only child or only girl. Be patient and try to see their point as well as yours. If you respect them and show them you are mature and that they have no reason to hang on so tight they will give you a little more freedom as well. Remember if they didn't love you and care they wouldnt hang on!
2006-11-26 17:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No parent ever wants to see their baby grow up to a grown adult. Just let them be parents and smother you till you leave. That is what they are there for. To love, cherish and protect you. Sometimes it is hard to let go, I look at my 16 month son and hopes he will always want me around and will always love him the way I love him. I would do anything for him and your parents feel the same way. They don't want to be out of your life and they don't want you to grow up. But talk to them... let them know your feelings of wanting more independence and freedom... they will understand if you sit down like an adult and let them know what is on your mind without pouting and throwing fits like a child. be mature about it
2006-11-26 17:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that they don't get it they just want to protect you for life. I'm 21 and my parents still treat me like I'm six but I don't stress cause im the baby to them and will always be in there eyes. Just go with the flow because when you get out on your own and see what the real world is like you are going to miss your parents. It ain't easy.
2006-11-26 20:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by blaqie2284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a parential thing. They will always consider you their baby and thus forth will try to do the best for you, even if you consider it not letting go. Remind them that you're aging and that when you turn 18, that they need to give you more liberties. Oh and since you're 17, they still have ownership of you.
2006-11-26 17:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Wat L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will always be there baby, I moved out at 17, but I had a great home and man for me. My mom wanted me to go in her mind and heart, but she just wanted someone to talk to. Tell your parents that.. wait show your parents that you have responsibility
2006-11-26 19:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋